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writes: Hi,I'm currently seeing a guy. He's kind, gentle, sweet, funny, caring - EVERYTHING I've always wanted. He handles situations with ease and calm, and he's just --- OOH! Perfect! I really, truly love him. And he loves me, too! ^_^I know this sounds kinda stupid since I'm 16, and people older than me will think "How the heck can a 16-year-old know what love is? Does she know what she's talking about?" -- I'm not idiotic to the differences between love and teenage lust.Anyway, the only problem with our relationship is that I'm 16 - and he's 22. A good 6 years older than me.I'm writing this because I really, REALLY care about him a lot, and we WANT to stay together as much as possible, but it's so hard to see him because we have to keep it secret - my parents are very strict. My grandmother has to keep sneaking me out to see him, and I don't want to put her into any immediate danger with my parents.For now, should I still keep it a secret from my folks? Or should I tell them?My BF has been really good and says that he's still going to stay with me, no matter what my choice: but my parents might - no, will DEFINITELY - freak out and ban me from any contact with ANYBODY.HELLLP!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2006): First of all, a 16yr can fall in love. I did and now im turning 20 and I still feel the same. As for the age gap, its not as bad as you think. Ok, your parents may not be the happiest but you need to make them see your bf in the same way you do. Sounds hard I know. You could try the old fashioned way. Make your bf do all the hard work to begin with. And let him ask your parents for their blessing. If that fails then you put your foot down and say you love him and its him and only him who you want. And if you cant have him then you dont want anyone! Hope it works out for you two.Amz
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reader, elmino +, writes (19 October 2005):
Well i don't no if this qualifies as an answer but,we are kinda in the same boat but reversed,kinda.I'm 31 and have been seeing/going out with an 18 yr old girl for about 4 mnths now.We both are very,very happy with each other, but her parents a)don't know we're seeing each other b)think i'm "21" cause thats what she told them.Things were going good till her parents notice that i'm always picking her up and dropping her off.(and the hickies.hey ,she does it to me first)but now they know that we are probably more than friends.And now they want to meet me.I'm shy in the first place,never mind trying to pretend i'm 21!Just cause i can pass for 21 by looks doesn't mean i act like im 21.then i have to put on an act(lying)and thats no way to start a relationship that i want to work, so badly.The only way i can think of going about this is, yeah, meet them, and hope and pray that i can impress them to the point that they see how genuine i am.And i would be honest, if they asked my age,if not, then thats another days conversation.at least they might accept it,even if they don't 100% approve.Or i could end up being chased down the road by her father.either way,you can't keep sneaking around.Thats no way to have a relationship.Good luck!
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