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female
age
30-35,
*lffy
writes:Im friends with benefits with my ex boyfriend. We broke up years ago we were both really young, but now we're 16. We were fwbs before but then one of my friends asked me out, I was totally surprised as I thought he was gay. So I said yes and broke things up with "O", my fwb, things were going well, but my friends started pointing out that "O" kept staring at me and was more grumpy than usual. I shrugged it off but then me and my boyfriend started drifting apart, I didn't feel the same way that he felt and I got extremely upset when he told me he loved me and I couldn't say it back. So I broke things off. The next day "O" asked if we could be fwbs again, but started acting differently when I went over to his to talk, we ended up making out and we did some stuff...but he kept kissing me and holding my hand and touching my hair and things like that, for example, when I went over I saw him looking out of the lounge window and rush upstairs when he saw me then when I knocked on the door claimed to have been playing his guitar..We haven't had sex yet, because I want to wait until I'm in a relationship with some one first. My friend thinks he has a crush on me and I'm not sure, because he can be really sweet and romantic but when we're with our group of friends he acts like nothing has happened. I'm not sure if I like him or if I just enjoy our mutual relationship where I know where I stand and control the pace ect. I'm confused, does he want something more or not?? Please help...
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reader, MugenTj  +, writes (18 July 2011):
 It's smart to hold off the sex until you are more sure. Because the first time is indeed special to a girl. The fact that you are confused is normal as well. At your age, you should try to practice having relationship that defines more clearly. By all mean, relax and enjoy the ride, and only analyze to the point that help you know what is going on, but keep your mind healthy for things like education and personal growth.
Being not sure is perfectly acceptable, never let a guy pressure you into anything that you are not sure. A healthy relationship is one that you can be in control of (along with your partner). As to "does he wants more?" Only he knows. Why do you want to know? If yes, what would you do? If no, what would you do?
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