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writes:Hi Guys (: Me and my boyfriend have been going out for 2 and a half years.We're both 15 and considering having sex for the first time. I know what your probably thinking "Just another teenage couple rushing to grow up" but thats not the case.We've been considering it for about a month, and we've talked about all diffrent forms of contreception, and he said that we doon't have to rush things and he will go at my pace.I feel that im ready and i will give my virginity to my boyfriend knowing that I can trust him :D I was Just wondering,IS there anything i need to know? As in does it hurt really bad? And what can i do to releive the pain.Thanks for those who reply + dont judge Me.x3
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reader, chocolatecake999 +, writes (20 May 2008):
hiya!! There is a high chance that it will hurt but that doesn't mean it has to be a bad experience. Firstly make sure you are comfortable and in a room/place where you will not be interrupted and you have plenty of time. You must not rush it or it will hurt. It is better to start with some foreplay to get you relaxed and ready for sex then take things slowly, make sure you tell him to stop if the pain is too much. He can kiss you to take your focus away from the pain, then try it a bit further in. Don't worry just keep doing that and you will get there. By the sounds of your relationship it will go totally fine providing you both relax and take your time!!! enjoy
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reader, aphexinfinite +, writes (20 May 2008):
 what lotus says is pretty much all that can be said about that.. ppl arnt judging you hunnie and saying wait till youre 16 youre too young no one your age will listen and the truth is when i was 15 i had a bf thought he was the one a year later when i was 16 we had sex 2 years after we spit up and i regreated giving it away and wish i had waited! in the end of the day sweetie all we can do is give you advice and hope you choose the better path..if i were you if ure serious about this is to look at birth control before you have sex and use condoms also i think the better method of bc is the rod its an implant last for 3 years..everyone is different wen it comes to sex some bleed alot or just a little it can hurt alot but if u take it easy and dont rush it wont hurt as much as for once he breaks youre hymen use some lubricant which will make it a bit more pleasant.. hope this helps aphex xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 May 2008): Don't worry about it. You seem very mature. Use a condom that's for sure.Just relax, the more you worry about it, the more tense you will be and the more likely yo tare you will be. Make sure that you are both completely relaxed and have lots of foreplay so that your body becomes naturally lubricated and your body will become ready for him. Get him to kiss you all the way through the sex or nibble on your ear (which ever you both prefer), tell him to caress your body, this will help draw your attention away from the pain, if there is any.If it hurts too much then tell him to stop and you can try again another time when you are more relaxed (the more times you do this the more comfortable your body will become with the prospect of sex).Good luck.
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reader, lotus mama808  +, writes (20 May 2008):
 My first time didnt hurt. For most girls, however, it does. You might tare, which will be followed by some bleeding. Make sure you are in a comfertable place, and tell him to go slow, so you can get comfertable will the whole thing. If you do hurt, there isnt much you can do to stop the pain, it might hurt to close your legs, sit or walk. Use an ice pack. The pain will go away on its own. Please use a condom, and go to an OBGYN, let him/her know you are sexually active, get proper screening and discuss forms of birth control that might be right for you. Also, consider the HPV vaccination. Could save you from cervical cancer.
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