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writes: Me and my bf are both 16, We started having sex a few months ago, but neither of us gets much out of it. If I'm on top I get nothing out of it and he gets a little. When he's on top, he gets nothing most of the time and I've never got anything apart from one time when it felt good (the best so far), but we haven't found that place again!! He also hasn't cum yet and obviously I haven't orgasmed. We are both virgins and I would like to have a great sex life with him, as this is ruining it. I know sex isn't everything, but what we do is pointless and boring, as neither of us particularly enjoys it.I would like to hear any advice on sensual positions of things that would make it fantastic for both of us.thanks x
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 May 2005): Try looking up positions on the internet or some magazines have positions in them or maybe you could buy some sex toys to try and spice things up a bit.
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reader, Bev Conolly  +, writes (25 May 2005):
 Have you considered that you might've leapt into the whole sex thing too soon? Maybe neither of you is really keen yet... Sex, per se, isn't automatically back-clawing and earth-shattering - televised teen-dramas notwithstanding. Like almost everything, you have to want to do it, and then you have to take some time to learn to do it right.I have the tiniest suspicion that you and your boyfriend looked at one another one day when you were alone together and said something along the lines of "Hey, we could have sex, I guess. You wanna?" You then proceeded to jiggle away at each other for a while, until you realised it was getting you nowhere and you both got bored.Or something.But what I'm suggesting is that there wasn't a driving force there, there was no urgency, no unfilled need tickling the back of your collective mind, DEMANDING sexual gratification and that the result was... disappointing.There are two things you can do. Option One is: Stop having sex. Seriously. Consider not having sex until both of you are absolutely hanging out for it. When you are, you'll be game to try new and delightful surprises on each other. You'll want to try dozens of positions, you'll want to give oral to each other, you'll play out a few kinks, you'll be game for each others' fantasies. In other words, it'll be fun. Until that time, having sex just because you can - and when it's patently not pleasing either of you - is like jumping into the Arctic Ocean naked. You could... but why would you?I'm personally in favour of Option One.However, Option Two is: work harder on getting each other into the mood before you go straight for the penetrative sex. Stroke each other's skin in ticklish places. Trade sensual, oiled massages. Watch or read some porn together. Get naked and rub your bodies together *without* sex. Try out chocolate body paint. Masturbate each other, etc. Sex can go on for hours before penis ever meets vagina. Getting yourselves worked up is the fun part. You don't really need advice from me, or from anyone. People have been enjoying sex for, oh, at least since my adolescence anyway! ;-) What you need is to wait until you really, really want it and nothing else will do.
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reader, ashley +, writes (24 May 2005):
well that would be weird but maybe you could look up new ..more exciting positions..and they try a bunch of them there should definetely be a position that suites both of you..and also pleasures both..maybe try when hes on top maybe put your legs over his shoulders beleive me that should work..well i dunno what else to say either than good luck
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