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anonymous
writes:I'm home from university and I've entered into a relationship of some sorts with a local girl. We've been seeing each other for a few weeks and we're having a nice time, but unfortunately we both know that this will all have to come to an end in a month or so when she starts attending university far from me and I return to my university to continue my course.Our relationship is slightly sexual (we've performed sex acts on each other), but she has told me that given that we have such a short time to be together, she has decided that we won't have sex. I don't know how to feel about that. I understand why she wouldn't want to, because if we have sex then we're only going to become more attached to one another. But on the other hand, I'd like us to have sex. The relationship is not purely a sexual thing. We hang out, listen to music, watch TV, hang out with her friends, go for drinks... you know... everything. I am not one of those guys who is after sex and nothing else. However, I do feel that sex is missing from our relationship, and I wonder if it is something that is worth both our while continuing, even if sex is not a part of our relationship.I'd like to know what you all think to this, and your advice would be appreciate. Thanks!
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (28 December 2009):
Sorry hun, but she's made her choice.
She doesn't want to have sex with a guy who is going to leave her. So you will have to put up with that or if you can't take it then cut contact now.
It could well be that she is a virgin, or only been with one or two guys, so she wants to save herself for someone special.
Respect her feelings and enjoy what you have.
Good Luck!! xx
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