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writes:My girlfriend and I argue.My girlfriend is going through an amputation of her leg soon and several surgeries before hand. She definately feels helpless and argues with her mother constantly.I love her so much and we've been arguing a lot. Stupid things. Like when I visit her and it's 11 pm and I fall asleep while she's on the phone with a friend. Just stoooooooopid things. I don't care if I"m wrong or if she's wrong of ir nobody is wrong but I really wish we'd stop arguing. I don't want her to break up with me because of all this lame arguments. Do you have any suggestions?? Reply to this Question
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reader, Not My Name  +, writes (25 March 2010):
 Obviously she is angry about losing her leg and it is manifesting in outburts at others. Please try to be mindful of this which will help you overlook some of the behaviour.
Under the circumstances, with all else that must be weighing on her that most of us could hardly understand, it would be good (if you can manage it) to simply just not argue back for now. Just try to say sorry to everything and comfort her wether your fault or not.
When she has mentally recovered a bit after this ordeal then decide where your relationship stands, but for now, just keep telling yourself why she is doing it, and let her express her anger, even if you cop the brunt of it.
If you find it difficult to be in this position right now, perhaps you could pop in to the patient and family services department that many hospitals have and see if they would allow you a chat with one of the social workers/ counsellors who may be able to also give you some tips in coping with this from your side.
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