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writes:I'm in a really new relationship, we've only been dating for a week now. I've noticed that we have quite a few differences and don''t always get along. He tends to not always think before he speaks and I get upset sometimes. We also live about an hour away from each other so we don't see each other every day. Anyway, we do argue more than we probably should but we always make up when we see each other because we're very affectionate with each other. But my worry is that, when I leave for school in a few weeks and won't see him for a couple months, I'll end up hating him because we do have our differences but we won't make up if we don't see each other. Does this sound like an unhealthy relationship? I still don't know him that well and I do want to see where this goes, but is the fighting already a sign that it won't work out?Thanks in advance Reply to this Question
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reader, followtheblackrabbit  +, writes (25 December 2010):
 Not necessarily. Sometimes, it takes a while for two different personalities to understand each other and work out compromises. Relationships aren't purely lovey-dovey, romance, and butterflies all around though how great would that be? :) But, I suggest you two find another to settle your differences or better yet, learn how to avoid arguments. Think about the causes of your disagreements-how do they start? Is there a specific topic that fuels the fire? Is one person the instigator? I also have to add that a long distance relationship is very difficult, if you two are having problems now...distance is going to add an immense strain. You two have to work at this. Come up with strategies. My LDR bf and I agreed to take a minute of silence if we found ourselves arguing. We were both proud, so to say sorry, we sent each other one of "our" songs. Stuff like that. If this will work, you both need to invest patience and understanding. If one is not willing, everything crumbles.
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