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writes: hi i hope someone can help. me and "shell" were friends in school, not major friends, just mixed with the same people. we both left school about 8 years ago, i left to go to uni and she got a local job. wed bump into eachother and have always been friendly if we see eachother, but made no real plans to ever meet again. the problem is, we seem to have been seeing the same man!i just split from a very long relationship and just wanted some fun. i met " drew" and we decided to just have fun, no strings, which was great. after about 4 months we both fell for eachother. "drew" met "shell" a couple of weeks before me, and kept it going. for about 2 months before finishing with her. neither of us knew he was seeing anyone else until the other night. i bumped into her and the conversation about bfs came up. she told me how hurt she was when she was dumped. but you cant imagine how shocked we both were when we found out it was the same guy. "drew" confessed he had been seeing someone else a while ago, and seeing as it was all fun in the begining we both kinda laughed it off and moved on itno a very serious relationship. so serious are we now, that im practically living with him. the problem now is the fact that she keeps texting me. saying i dont deserve him, while shes texting him asking to meet up to get answeres as to why he cheated on her, even though he never once told her they were an item. she works with his mate and quite frankly we have all had anough of it. ive been really polite with her as i dont want to cause an argument. she is obviously not happy, and i can see why, but why wont she leave us be? shes even said her brother, who has a bit of a name for fighting, is not happy, and im worried that he'l see us out and have a go. what should i do?
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reader, mommyofthree +, writes (16 December 2005):
 That is quite the nasty situation! First off, I would tell her that enough is enough, though her feelings are hurt the situation can not be changed by continuing the harrassment, if anything it is only being made worse. If she continues to contact you then you may need to change your numbers, I know it is irritating to have to do that but in the end it may be the only way to get her to stop texting or calling. Second, I would be some what worried about the brother of this girl. If you know he has a name for fighting you may want to try to avoid places you know he hangs out, atleast until the other girl gets involved with someone else. I doubt he will be the kind of guy that you can talk this out with, if he does try anything I would get the police involved. Sometimes when people have their hearts broken it takes them a while to see that their actions are not only un called for but also border line crazy. Be patient and hopefully she will find someone new soon, until then take care and be careful.
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