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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:were both virgins and we love each other very deeply weve been together a long time we want to have sex but he couldnt get in i tried relaxing i thought i was calm he soothed me the whole time he was right on top of it but he doesnt want to hurt me by just shoving it in and were not really able to get our hands on lube so what do we do?
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reader, love-him  +, writes (20 August 2007):
 hey bbe, has he performed oral on you? or maybe wet his fingers and finger you, which can open you up, keep doin that for a while.. dont forget to use contraception babe.. i hope i helped, mail me if u want to talk x x
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2007): I'm sorry that those two answers are so unhelpful for you, it really annoys me when young people get such patronising answers when they ask about sex. It's completely up to you if you decide to have sex (even though it is against the law so you should try and wait but i think if you are responsible and mature about it its not a problem) and it annoys me that people never give you the benefit of the doubt! you could have talked about it for ages, waited until you were definately both ready and in love and talked about contraception and everything else. why does everyone just assume you are too young to deal with it responsibly??? argh. sorry, rant over. Although i do agree with the anonymous female, have you actually tried with a condom? because not only should you DEFINATELY use one for contraceptive reasons but they have lubrication on the outside so that should help you. It sounds like he cares about you as he wasn't just forcing you. Have you tried foreplay? That might help xxxxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2007): You should deffinately think about what you're doing here. If you are this young are you prepared to deal with the consequences of this act? Pregnancy, Diseases, emotional dependency like you'd never believe, and so on. If you really love each other and have true respect for one another than you would wait. And something tells me that if you can't get your hands on some lubrication with some spermicide then you deffinately aren't using a condom because condoms come with lubrication!
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2007): right now you feel like you love each other deeply, i'm sorry to say it, but it won't last. you'll regret it if you lost it to him. don't make the mistake of trying it too young... i was 13 and i've regretted it everyday since. wait until you find the right person, or at least wait until you are 16 x
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