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writes: Hi,I have been dating a guy and it was going very well. I met his friends recently and we ended up sleeping together for the first time. We have been seeing each other for about a month.I have been away a lot of weekends visiting friends, sometimes in other countries and am away this weekend abroad with a friend. He hasn't contacted me this week and I think he may be rather worried that I am not that keen. He always says nice things and that he really likes me - I do not give him as much feedback, so do you think he may be feeling rather insecure? He wanted to see me before I went away and I said I might not have time. I do really like him but am scared to say so in case he loses interest. Or maybe it's becasue we slept together, but everything seemed to be fine and it didn't seem to be an issue. I think it may be because I keep going off to all these places which were arranged before we got together.x
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reader, Toria +, writes (28 September 2006):
 I would try and fit in seeing him before you go away at the weekend even if it's just for half hour at least then he can see that even though your going away you don't want to go without seeing him first.
I understand that you arranged all these things before you met him but you need to make time for him even if you can't give much at the moment better some than none.
Good luck :o)
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reader, Lostandalone  +, writes (28 September 2006):
 I don't think the problem is him, I think that its you. If you have an issue with the way he is acting then maybe you need to start with how you are acting. He maybe feels dejected about all the time you are spending away. He can't really get his emotions tied up in you because you don't seem to be concerned with giving him that much time. Why would you start something with him that you couldn't finish? A relationship needs time especially in the beginning. That is how you build a foundation. You don't have a foundation and it seems you're not trying to build one. Don't question him until you make a change and you seem quite content in what you're doing and he doesn't have a problem with it. Why should he bother calling you when you don't have time for him? Did you bother to call him? Look at your own actions first. Why should he put in time when you're not?
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 September 2006): If I was you I would make time for him - spend a w/end with him and tell him how you feel... Explain to him that these w/ends were all arranged before you met & got 2gether but also you HAVE to make some quality time alone for both of you to get to kno each other better and just be able to talk and tell each other how you feel...
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 September 2006): If I was you I would make time for him - spend a w/end with him and tell him how you feel... Explain to him that these w/ends were all arranged before you met & got 2gether but also you HAVE to make some quality time alone for both of you to get to kno each other better and just be able to talk and tell each other how you feel...
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