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writes:Okay, so here it goes.....I really don't know if it's a problem, persay, or just me being a worry wart.Do NOT judge me okay?Well....I went to my boyfriend's house, well his Paw Paw's house, for the 4th of July, and everything went swell.Until we got a little tooo close and the normal teen thing of making out and touchy feeling on top of the clothes, got under the clothes.Of course, his hand didn't go in my pants, as I wouldn't have let him, but as far as in between my legs and above my pants, yes.I did the same with him, except he was in shorts.Well....after a while he slipped my hand in his shorts, and I gave him a handjob.(And he lifted up my bra after we took our shirts off...but that wasn't a big deal because it really was 100 degrees in the house and I had on a bra that looked sorta like a bathing suit top, so yeah)Between you and I, I'm being very adult about the situation as I believe you're as mature as your act.Anyway.That was the farthest it got-with the exception we took our shirts off, abd him lifting up my bra a couple a times and all.....And we didn't have protection-and I doubt we would have let ourselves go that far anyway-so we just did that whole fake-screwing thing with your clothes on.Well...I know I shouldn't be worried because we're in love and I know he wouldn't dump me, he just isn't that type of guy to fall in love then dump the girl. In fact he said ' don't leave me....' about five times. I guess he was as worried as I am now about getting what we want then leaving...Should I be worried things will go downhill?He was fine when he dropped me off and everything was good....but I see so many people getting hurt, althought they go farther then we did, but we've already made a deal we won't do that til I'm 18 (he'd be 20 )And we've kept it. But we all have our limits and I can make a guy change his mind-what girl can't. All guys have their limits.But I'm soooo scared something bad will happen.And no, I haven't-and hopefully won't til I'm 18, slept with him.So should I be worried?And the other question is if it gets to that point again, should I sleep with him?I know it probably wouldn't....the farthest it'd go is the touchy feely thing.But still.I just, I want to. (What girl doesn't) but I have to think about the consequences. If my parents found out then I'd be dead and me and him would be over til i'm 18.Get it?So anyway. HELP!!!!!!!!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 July 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you so much! You did help, but anyone else who has advice for me is welcome!
I sent you a message by the way hun!
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reader, O Connor  +, writes (6 July 2008):
 ok, so your afraid that if you did sleep with him right now, he would have got wat he wanted and take off? and your also asking us whether or not you should have sex? first worry - this guy sounds pretty decent and didnt pressure or ask you to go any further when things did get a little heavy. he sounds as if he respects you and i wouldnt worry about losing him, in fact by the sounds of it, you guys have a great understanding relationship and are quite mature in that respect.
to the second question, only you can really know when your ready to have sex. but in my opinion, your still too young (im presuming your max 15). you guys are still growing and bringing sex into an equation always changes things. i think that you should enjoy having fun with him, but leave it at that until your both a bit older.
i think that your both mature enough to be able to do that and know it will be worth it when your older.
if you wanna talk more or have any feedback for me, email me.
good luck!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 July 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOka, I'm the person that asked this question! On this part:
And he lifted up my bra after we took our shirts off...but that wasn't a big deal because it really was 100 degrees in the house and I had on a bra that looked sorta like a bathing suit top, so yeah.
I meant me having no shirt on and my bra lookin like a bathing suit top wasn't a big deal.
Not the lifting up my bra as duh, that was a big deal lol!
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