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writes:The other night me and my boyfriend got pretty intimate, not sex or anything, but we came close. The thing is, he hasn't contacted me or answered my calls since. I think he's avoiding me and I'm upset because that's the most I've ever done with a guy. I don't know what to do. Any advice? ): Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question..i only called twice.. its been 3 days
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reader, b.rye +, writes (17 April 2009):
 This anonymous male writer needs to keep such ugly opinions to himself. It is not a good way to give advice - don't listen to people who will carry such a judgmental tone.That's a very insecure position you're in, especially at your age. The truth is that he may have kind of freaked out because it's the furthest he's ever been himself. Intimacy can be scary. The first time I ever experienced a kiss with a guy, it seemed as though I was ashamed of myself for acting that way. I couldn't get myself to even look at him after that. Fortunately, comfort with intimacy improves with age. My advice - take your time. Let him come back to you if he wants to (don't push him). If he doesn't, don't worry about it. It's not because of YOU. It's because he's having to work with his own emotions and insecurities. Keep on the look for another boyfriend. Something else to consider: the next person you date, take your time with them before you get intimate. If you get to know each other well enough and trust each other, the intimacy won't create barriers, but will instead take them down.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2009): Stop whining and appearing so desparate. VERY unattractive. Makes people feel like they can use you. (Women -- amazing how the worse you treat 'em, the more women want you LOL). Give him some space. If he doesn't call, start winking at another guy -- guys are so easy to encourage! Start dating someone else -- I'll bet then he'll start calling you quick enough after that!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni've tried calling.. the thing is he wont pick up. could i have done smthn wrong? could he be using me..? im not sure what to think.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2009): the best thing to do is just wait and see..dont make him think your desperate for him by constantly phoning or txting him, if he does contact you then you can find out why it took him long but if he doesnt then you can be sure he isnt the one, you didnt exactly state how close you got but it might even be the case where that was the only thing he wanted...all the best
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2009): Relax. Men respect women who don't sleep around, even if they're a bit frustrated. If you do decided he's "the one," just be sure. You can't take it back, and it will leave on impact on your life,I'm told, particulary because you're a woman. Just be sure.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2009): IF i were in your place .... i would definetly call and ask the guy casually . what is up with him? Ask him, is anyting bothering him. First try to gain his trust. i am sure he will open up to you... as of what you have said .its difficult to say what is he upto ??
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