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writes:i wanted to buy a house not long ago and ive been with my boyfriend for over a year. we already live together but at his parents which i find we are always stuck in his bedroom. he's 23 and im 20 i feel like we're now at the point where we need to get somewhere of our own.iv got a good job and he's a plumber who earns loads so its not like we couldnt afford a place. his parents are really old and im worried he will never leave home because he feels like he needs to look after them. how can i get us out of his bedroom and into our own place? Reply to this Question
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reader, Jovial  +, writes (19 September 2007):
 Hi
I think u need to handle this very well because he seem to be very comfortable where he is right now. which means if you suggest moving out without thinking he might think you dont like his parents and he might feel like u are putting him in an awkward position.
Engage him on property conversations find his view without giving away your intentions, ask him if he ever wants to own one etc etc, lead the topic ask him about his hopes and dreams so that he doesnt feel as if you are suggesting he marries you; be wise so that in the end it will be like it was his own idea of getting house not yours. I can imagine how bad feels when you want an alone-time with him and his parents interrupts and the whole mood is dead.
good luck
Jovial
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reader, Tommy7  +, writes (19 September 2007):
Suggest you have 2 places and go back and forth.
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