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male
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:My last relationship has ended and i started thinking about what to do and who to try to move on with, ive always had interest in a girl since before i even really liked girls I liked her in kinder garden lol, and have known her since but we had a odd relationship, like we would talk a lot some years other years we drifted apart. Well were going to the same collage and we are around each other a lot, and we have been talking since the first few days.She had been hitting on me and getting really stirred up about some things I said or did and made her blush and get embarrassed. Well i asked her if she would like to date today and got shot down, but not utterly destroyed shot down.She simply said that we have been to wishy washy in the past, we would randomly stop existing in a sense to one another, and she trusts me a degree because of the fact we grew up together but she also has doubt because of how our relationship was in the past. She said that if we had been around each other more consistently in high school she would probably date me.She also thought it would be a little awkward if we dated because we have known each other for so long and we watched each other grow up, but i personally think that should make somebody more trusting of someone. Even tho we have had an bit of an odd relationship i can honestly say that she is one of the few people i 100% trust because i have known her forever.I think the lot of the reason she wont date me is because she is still hurting about her ex who was the heart throb of our school, but from her time with him he was about as deep as a puddle. He was a pretty face, attached to a basic human mind. His goal was to simply be better then everyone else at everything he did. He mistreated her, and she doesnt want to open herself up to someone right now because she may get hurt.Its funny our friends at collage we met this year have on several occasions been like why don't you two date you seem to get along so well and think we should date because we have known each other for so long, and we already hit on each other all the time. What is going on in her mind, is there any chance that maybe over the semester she may change her mind and decide to date me if we continue to talk and do things together. She just seems confused, and ive liked her to long and known her to long to just give up, like were such good friends and connected to each other that were still friends like we were before after i got shot down, its like we cant make our interactions awkward we just know each other to well. In some ways this response made me happy
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 September 2009): be patient, and be there. Continue the friendship and see what happens. By asking her, you have made her think about you as more than a friend. Be sweet, flirt with her, and throw in a comment every once in a great while (every few days) that lets her know that you are still interested. I think there is hope.
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