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anonymous
writes:I was traditionally married 3months ago,we are now staying with his 6year old son that he had told me he doesnt believe its his son before i told him there is a chance he might be yours and you need to take responsibility, after a month of marriage he tells me he wants to take responsibility thats was fine with me.This week he tells me kid is coming to stay with us im not happy at all i think he rushed me and im not happy anymore,why did the child come so early in our relationship im just not happy anymor Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 August 2010): Blame your husband, not an innocent child.
He is the one who did not discuss this with you.
That shows a lack of respect for YOU, and your feelings, your home, your life, the whole nine yards.
Don't make the issues about the child, this situation is all about your husband and the fact that he did not give a damn about your feelings and wishes regarding this matter.
I must ask though, if you love him, why are you not looking at this positively? This child is a part of HIM. What if you had a child, would you expect the man you love to embrace that child? Would you think less of him if he didn't?
I understand you being upset that you weren't consulted, but now you have a choice to make. Is this cause for divorce? Then leave him. If not, then try and make the best of it after having a long talk with your husband, at least for the childs sake.
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