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anonymous
writes:I have been with my partner for nearly 3 yrs and living together for about a year, the thing is we haven't had sex in 6 months. Im getting sick of asking him, Ive tried everything and he just keeps giving me excuses. ive tried to ask hiom what is wrong but he just shruggs it off. I dont know what else to try, does anyone have any ideas as what I can say to him without appearing to pressure him, another reason that is given to why we have no sex life. thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 July 2008): Sounds as though he's emotionally disconnected or emotionally connected elsewhere. I'm the one in the relationship that doesn't want to have sex because I have unresolved issues with an ex. I'm emotionally attached, however not cheating. You may want to see if his emotional connection lies elsewhere. It doesn't mean that he doesn't love you or want you----he just can't because his heart may be confused.
Ask him.
Talk.
Communicate.
Also, (look your best!!!)
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 July 2008): Don't listen to the advice of people that point the finger at you........there is nothing wrong with you, HE HAS A PROBLEM.
Pay attention to his unaccounted times, don't let him know or he will hide better if something is going on, don't assume he is having an affair, there are other things going on in today's society besides other women that can rob a man of his sexual desire for his wife.
Come back here and post with your information and get help before you approach him, but we need more information. A man his age has sexual desires, but he is spending it somewhere else, find outwhere it is going.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 July 2008): this is your husband we are talking about,just remind him of a vow(for better or worse)
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 July 2008): ill be straight with u. the last thing i would suggest u do is sit him down n ask to talk. fact of life, men don't want to talk about their feelings and emotions. they would rather avoid the situation than addressing the problem and go on from their. sounds to me like your not trying hard enough to make him want to sleep with you. men are men at the end of the day, they hav animal instincts and if he likes wot he sees he wil want u. seduce him.
sounds as though the relationship is coming to an end, since you need both the physical and emotional balance in order for it to be successful. without one it will fail. analyse the situation. wot are the reasons he is not sexually attracted to u? have you let your self go? is he cheating? sounds harsh but needs to be said. good luck ! x
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 July 2008): You can't assume, but the options could be he's just bored of it, or its something to do with you.
I'm not saying you've done anything wrong, but he might see something as a problem. You do need to talk to him, you do need to say that its bothering you.
Thats all you can do...
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reader, starfairy +, writes (6 July 2008):
 Sit him down when you are both relaxed and tell him that this issue is upsetting you, making you feel shut out, etc, and that you would really like to resolve it, and you don't like the idea of him having a problem and not being able to talk to you. Make sure he knows you are understanding, and there for him, and just be prepared for whatever reason he might come up with!!
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