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female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:i have been with my fiance since highschool, so for about four years now. but it seems as though since we set our wedding date that we just get into constant arguements. i work so hard everyday at work to save and it seems like he rather be at home playing games or with his cousins. i take him everywhere because he doesnt have his license so when i ask to get it he gets offensive. i am 19 and he is 21 and i feel like i act like his mother at times because when i ask him to do somethin he never does it or says he forgets. we work different shifts so its hard to see eachother alot but when i am home im takin him places or he is always on the phone with someone. i tell him how i feel about thing but he says things will change and they do for a little bit than he is back to his old self. im so confused. please help.
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reader, amazinamazon +, writes (21 August 2008):
First off, men only change if they want to. He is acting like a child because you are being his mother. If you really love this guy and think he has potential then you will need to change your behavior. Treat him like a man and he'll start to act more like one. Let him do masculine things for you (fix something, put air in your tires anything) and when he does them praise him for it. When he accomplishes anything he deems important praise him for it. Listen to him when he talks. Never ever tell him what to do (that's what a mom does) If he asks you for advice then fine. Next don't be available for him 24/7. Get busy with college classes, friends, anything. Also do not bring up wedding dates or marriage. Try this for 1 month. If nothing improves you should really consider breaking it off. Do you want to waste another four years?
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