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writes:I was in a relationship for over two years. My girlfriend loved me more than anything. I was young, stupid and when I drank I would break up with her. I did that 7 times. This last time I broke up with her was on her b day I was drunk. March 22. We have been apart since then. I have realized what I had and cant give it up. She has been seeing a counselor whos convinced her we should go our separate ways. She still loves me, I have begged for a last chance but she says the hurt she does not want to endure outweighs losing the relationship. Not in those words but thats how I see it. Any suggestions???
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (5 May 2008):
It doesn't matter if you are an addict or not, if you are an idiot when drunk then avoiding alcohol is definately the way forward.
If you want to show her that you've changed then you need to be respectful to her and show her you have given up the drink and are trying to change.
However, if you have hurt the poor girl so much she may just decide that she is always going to feel that hurt when she looks at you and not want to see you any more. if that is the case then you will just have to accept you messed up, learn from it and move on.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, nissan97240sx +, writes (5 May 2008):
nissan97240sx is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI am not drinking anymore. Its not that I have a problem with drinking, its that I do while im drunk. We were speaking soon after we broke up. Now i dont because it just makes me feel worse. From a womans point of view, what is the best way to prove I can be a better person?
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (3 May 2008):
Wow you've been horrible to her. Why should she believe that you are not going to do that again?
if you really need her back then you will respect her wishes and back off for a while. But write her a letter telling how sorry you are and how you still love her and want her to forgive you in the long run.
Then show her that you have stopped drinking. If she sees you are T-Total for a few months and you promise to stay that way forever then she may give you an 8th chance.
A lot of people turn into idiots when they drink, and people I know that do it have stopped drinking because of this. You will keep doing the same thing to her and any other girl in your life if you keep getting drunk so stop.
Good Luck!! xx
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