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female
age
36-40,
*lly_001
writes:Hi I am 23 and i am living with a man who is 46.we have been living together 3 1/2 months.He and i share similar opinions, leisure time preferences, ideas, jokes, hobbies etc, even though unlike the usual "older man younger woman" scenario he is in catering/security/etc "blue collar" work whereas I am an academic. However, comng home to someone who is willing to do things around the house to make it cozy, someone with whom to go fish, hike, sail, and redecorate the home in free time, is what I want when I come home, not more philosophy/academic discussions.i work a lot from home and he works flexible hours too, so we can make time together, apart, and time for work.we both agree we want kids together even though he has 3 from his previous marriage. since the place we live is small I easily got to know he has a reputation for being monogamous, serious, and doesnt mess about. when we argued and he though I was breaking it off with him, he genuinely cried.basically I guess I am wondering, something so "wrong", age, background, circles, and abstract ideas, how can all those be so off yet the comfort, love, passion, affection, laughter, friendship and happiness between us can feel so right?am I deluding myself or is this what real love feels like? when the person would kill and die for you, as u would for them, when u want to spend every possible moment with them, when u want them every second to make love with, when u laugh like crazy together, and fight then make up sweetly...u share hobgies and friends together.well this is what I have with him and yet he is 46 and I am 23 (mind u I have passed thru a lot and most think I am 30), we both want kids and we love each other dearly despite difference in age, income, background...is this for real like we feel it is or are we deluding ourselves? Reply to this Question
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reader, MissWendlemoot  +, writes (21 May 2008):
 The age gap is fine right now but what about in 20/30 years? He'll be elderly and getting frail and you'll still be young and full of life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 May 2008): i think the age gap here is meaningless because you go wel with each other.
lets just sayi would kill for love like this
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xx
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (21 May 2008):
Yes, it will work.
I don't see what your problem is?
If you love each other then there is no problem!
Good Luck!! xx
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