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writes:I have a sex question that I should probably know by now but don't - so here goes:My boyfriend and I had a huge fight . We went 3 weeks without having sex and finally we did. I expected him to orgasm right away but he didn't. When he finally did, there was hardly any cum in the condom. Does that mean he's been having sex with someone else? Or could length to orgasm and amount of cum be also affected by masturbation? It took about the same time as normal for him to orgasm (but before we were having sex 3 times a week). The normal level of cum is usually more.Am I reading into it - or are these indications of recent sex?
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2012): just read your follow up. so sorry to hear about that. but if that's the way he feels, then you have to accept it. if it's meant to be you will be together. if not, then there is someone else out there waiting to find you as much as you're waiting to find them. so good luck, and again i'm really sorry to hear that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 June 2012): Oh damn. Sorry to hear that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 June 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWe just broke up. He claims he loves me but can't see a future with me.
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (8 June 2012):
After the follow up, sounds like you should have MUCH bigger problems than whether or not he's been cheating or masturbating. You've been together a year and he still doesn't want to meet your parents? That's odd. Although simple details like that might seem trivial, they're actually helpful when helping to determine anything. I wouldn't say that he's cheating necessarily still, but ummm if he's still not ready to meet your parents, sounds to me like he's not taking your relationhip too seriously.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionTo the anonymous writer who thought I was offended by masturbation - I am NOT.
It's what I've been doing for a month.
My question was whether he was masturbating
Like I hoped or cheating.
The fight was over him meeting my family. He didn't want to. After a year of dating. I freaked
He freaked. :(
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2012): 2 things may have happened:MasturbationCheatingYou know him best. Anything worth mentioning? Seems strange that he hasnt pushed for sex in 3 weeks? Stubborn? What did you fight about? If he is cheating i suggest you use condoms and take the necessary precautions.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2012): You're kidding, right? You think he's not going to take care of business just because you're pissed off with him? He jerked off as needed. And didn't know whether you'd be making up, so he didn't hold off taking care of himself. It has nothing whatever to do with someone else.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (6 June 2012):
 I'm agreeing with the others. I think he's been having his love affair with Rosy Palm and her Five Clingy Friends.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2012): He most likely isn't cheating on you, guys have problems going long periods of time without having sex. So he more than likely has been masturbating a lot more frequently than normal, so it just lessened the usual amount of semen he normally produces. Don't read into things so quickly, its probably just nothing. So good luck, and relax.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (6 June 2012):
 Semen amounts vary a lot, so does the length of time to orgasm. I know for instance when my bf and I are apart for awhile he takes longer to orgasm because the sensation is just different. Also that the second orgasm after going without for awhile always produces more and feels better for some reason. I don't think this could possibly be an indication of cheating.
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reader, Hugh.J  +, writes (6 June 2012):
 Semen volume is at its peak after 2-3 days of abstinence, and diminishes after that. It also reduces if he cums frequently - there is only so much there!
So, if he has been going without, or having an affair with his right hand, volume will be lower. It doesn't necessarily mean that he is playing away......
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (6 June 2012):
 Volume of semen can vary. When I'm receiving frequent blow jobs from girlfriends, the volume increases considerably, but without, it diminishes with masturbation. Nevertheless, the production of semen is an ongoing process, but I think that it increases due to usage and demand.
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (6 June 2012):
It could be, but you would have to ask him. I was going to go with the masturbation idea--which could quite possibly be an explanation. Especially if he did so right before seeing you. I've had boyfriends purposely masturbate beforehand so they could last longer.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2012): You're reading into it. He probably has been masturbating and maybe did it the night before you had sex with him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2012): it doesnt mean his cheating. he could of masturbated before he had sex wth u or anything. i know my bf always maturbates the morning before we have sex ( so that i dont get a whole lot of cum when i give him oral.) anyway he isnt cheating. it could also be due to stress perhaps. ? not too sure, but doesnt mean he cheTing
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