We had a good relationship then things started to go wrong and finally he just left without even informing me! Now I don't know what to think of it all??

A female age 51-59, anonymous writes:

I have read some of the other postings and can relate to some of the females problems that happened in their relationships. I have never been so hurt in my life. I dated a guy and the relationship was going well. I just knew that I found the love of my life finally. With him being 47 and me being 37, I figured that dating a older guy was not so bad. We would have disagreements like other couples do, no big thing. We stayed together for a year and some months and everything changed all of a sudden. He was so nice in the beginning, but when we had a problem that needed to be solved, he would flip out like relationships are not suppose to have problems. We didn't cheat on each other, it was just disagreements, both on his part and mine. If I felt like I was the one at fault, I would just apologize being the woman that I am. He would apologize also. A year had passed and the relationship just got worse. He kept complaining about his job being stressful like he's the only one with a stressful job. One day he just decided to leave the relationship without informing me. I was devastated. It took me some time to get over it with friends help. I thought that I couldn't because I felt like I meant more to him than that. I could have dealt with being told that I don't want you anymore better. It was really low down what he did to me. I waited for a few months to pass and I called him out of the blue because I don't hate him. Being 47, you would think that they would talk to you like an adult, especially if it wasn't nothing that bad that you did. I didn't mistreat or cheat on him so what could be that bad. He would call me a lot and spend a lot of time with me so I felt like he was happy with being with me. I called him and said let's go out and talk as friends. I didn't ask him to get back with me. He told me that he would, but I haven't got that talk yet so I quit asking. We also attend the same church. I'm not leaving that church because I grew up in that church. It doesn't bother me that he's there, but what make me a little pissed off is he will come up to me, hug me, compliment me like we haven't ever been together. You know sometimes you can lose your religion in church and I refuse to act like him. He don't pay attention to what's going on in church because he's constantly staring at me. I don't understand why he pays attention to me when he didn't want me and decided to leave me without no explanation. First he would speak to me now he won't at all after I brought a friend to church with me whiich happens to be my daughters father. We are the best of friends, it been like that for 21 years. He doesn't speak to my family no more either which attend the same church, but they don't care. My daughter text him because she grew to like him. I didn't even know that she did until she told me that he didn't text her back. I was shocked because he haven't ever did her like that, but I guess he don't like her anymore either. I tried being his friend because I didn't want to be his enemy. What is his problem? If it's over why does he constantly look at me?

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