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writes:So my boyfriend and I got in a fight after one of his nights of drinking and him calling me at 7 am to come pick him up.after huge fight in which I tell him to leave but not seriously he left but left all his things and went to a friends. He said he has things to sort out and can't be home right now. What's going on?I hate not knowing Reply to this Question
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reader, Star_07 +, writes (27 May 2008):
 It is very possible he is sorting things out. He must deal with what happened. He has to figure out that his behavior made you angry and why it made you angry and maybe you said some things that were wrong too. He has to determine "who is at fault" so to speak.
The thing is, you should have set some boundaries on what is acceptable to you. If it is not okay for him to be out all night partying, then you should have told him that in the first place. And its probably not a good idea to pick a fight with someone at 7 am after a night of drinking when you are angry and all he wants to probably do is go to sleep. I think you should have waited until he was rested and you were calm to explain to him why you were upset. I think at this point, you both need to apologize to each other.
As for right now, give him some space to think. After a few days or week or so, talk to him about what happened. Find out how he feels and tell him how you feel about the situation.
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