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writes:My cousin and I are in a relationship. . I was married at the time and he was not. We both loved each other deeply and were crazy for each other. So we got married behind the closed doors and was not done in public. We took this relationship very seriously, and I also had a daughter through him. Then he got married; however, he promised me that he is only doing it because he had to but he will never betray me. After a year or two, he left me and our daughter for seven years. Last year at a wedding he broke down and came back to me. even when he was not with me, I always thought of him as my ONLY husband since I had made the commitment. This time I told him that I take this relationship very seriously and that if he hurts me this time I will not be able to tolerate. So, we go on for a while and again he has asked to not have this relationship. He thinks it is wrong and he is afraid if it comes out in public. My feelings are very strong and my thinking is very different. I understand that it was a mistake we made back then but it is a relationship we had, a husband and a wife. Only because we did not do it in public does not mean anything to me. To me, whether it is a mistake or not, we were bonded by a relationship, it was true and genuine love. From my heart, he is my husband. However, he does not want to continue with this relationship. I am just so tired of being betrayed and disrespected. My argument is, he can only ask me to break this relationship because he does not think it is real. His relationship with his other wife, who he married in public is real? I gave him my world, my life with full trust but he wants to break this relationship because he is afraid of facing this world. Advise.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 March 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you so much as I am fighting for my love, my relationship for over a year, going crazy. Only because I take this very seriously and to me, even though it was a mistake we made, it was a real relationship. And if you value a relationship, facing the world, the family should not even be an obstacle.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 March 2010): If he married someone else he wasn't too serious about you to begin with and you even had a child together. If that's not betrayal then I don't know what you consider betrayal to be. He wants to be married to his wife and he wouldn't have legally married her if he felt about you the way you feel about him. There's someone out there for you though and you'll find him as soon as you move on from your cousin who is taking you for granted.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (17 March 2010):
 It has nothing to do with the ceremony - he jsut wants out of the marriage.
I think he is a bigamist and THAT is illegal.
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