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writes: Dear Cupid,How do I forget him?I met this guy 2 and half years ago, we were instantly attracted to each other. We dated a couple of times, but then we grew appart. We've been in touch through common friends and now he works in my building. I've had longer and steadier relationships since but I haven't been able to stop thinking of him, and not sure why because rationally he's not for me, we're too different characters. I told him a year ago how I felt and he said he liked me but that he didn't want a relationship. I know he does like me for the way he looks at me, the way he speaks to me and gets jealous if I'm with another guy, but if I don't contact him, he's happy to not know of me. I think I'm going crazy, I've accepted it's never going to happen but I still dream of him. It's not like I can't get another guy but I'm stuck and unable to move on. What do I do? How do I erase him from my memory?
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reader, AngelofLove  +, writes (7 December 2006):
 If you are with one guy and you are dreaming of another then perhaps you should rethink if to carry on with existing relationship at all.
Being already in a relationship may put the other one off.
He might not have wanted a relationship a year ago but his feelings may have changed.
Try to talk to him again. Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 December 2006): Why have you just accepted it won't happen? Maybe you two need to date each other again and see if this can work out. I can't tell you why you keep thinking of him but maybe deep inside you are wondering -if you two had really tried to work out your differences..you may have been able to find something special together. It's obvious from what you psosted there is still an attraction and some inkling of feelings there. Ask him out for coffee and have a talk about this. Laugh, be positive, have some fun, don't take it all seriously..just 'feel each other out" ans see where it goes. It's nice to have common interests with someone you like, but remember...all couples have differences and make it work. It just takes efforts, patience and a lot of understanding. if you are both unattached...Go for it and Good luck!
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