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writes:I dont know what to do?this Guy has just told me that we likes me, i been speaking to his guy for about 1 month or so..and we been chatting for long hours even when he has work in morning he would chat to me until i feel asleep, he is a very sweet guy i dont want to hurt his feeling but i do like him but i think i still got feeling for my Ex and i still see my ex sometimes and when i do i feel happy but then again angry im all confused and then this guy tells me that he likes me and he has moved down to london for working reasons and wants to go bk to leeds but he told me that he is only in london for me i dont know what to tell him im not really ready to go out again but i dont want to hurt his feeling as he has been throgh alot. what do i tell me how do i tell him , i dont know if he want to wait for my feeling to go for my ex but it hard pls help
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 March 2008): Beware the hybrid relationship. Your getting something from your online guy and something from your ex. No wonder your confused, the man you seek does not exist, he is a mixture of the two.
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reader, g247  +, writes (17 March 2008):
Though I don't really know enough to give full advice on the matter, from what I understand here's my thoughts:
Look you're not interested in this guy, plain and simple. He's a nice guy, but not boyfriend material. Not yet at least. Simple as.
Unless you asked him to move down to London for you, you should feel no guilt about that. A guy relocating to another part of the country to go out with you after only a month of chatting to you is a VERY extreme step to take.
You can't force yourself to go out with a guy you're just not interested in. Sweet as he may be, it's plain to see you don't view him that way. So you'll have to suck it up and tell him the honest truth.
Yes you'll hurt his feelings in the short-term, but by telling him the truth you also break his delusions that something will happen between you two and allow him to find someone who does see him the way that you don't.
Has to be done, no matter how hard it is. No two ways about it.
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