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writes:me and my ex broke up about 2 months ago, she found somebody else about 8 days after we broke up and i have found nobody, i dont intend to at the moment either as i have larger things on my mind. Now i have to see her everyday at work, and its impossible to avoid her. i;m not going to leave my job over it, but its just hard and my performance is being affected because of it. i get very attatched and although i dont desperatly want her back, i hate the awkward feeling, we are still friends and thats how i want it to stay, but i jsut want to know how i should get over this so i can move on and not make this problem the biggest thing in my life? so i dont have to dread work every day, even if i did stop being her friend, it wouldn't help as we work closely together unavoidably.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 August 2009): hey, i am 15 so u might not want to take my advice cause alot of people on this site dont answer for people older. i just wanted to say that i broke up with my boyfriend of 16 months two months ago, we did not stay friend but do have mutual friends so i have to see him around them and every dy at school. my mum actually gave me the advice of stopping tying so hard to move on and take it day by day if you feel sad then let yourself feel sad, soon enough you will atomatially start to feel better because you have given it time and your body and mind is ready to feel something new. feel what you need to feel dont try and control it, time really does help. just have fun and dont focus all your attention on feeling what you dont feel and trying to move on when you will just think about her more by doing this, time will help. dont force anything.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 August 2009): Hi. Its not a great situation when you break up with someone and have to see them everyday. 2 months is not a long time so it will still be awkward. You don't say why you broke up but I suspect there might still be some unresolved issues there. You have to want to move on and I wonder if you really do or if you just feel like you don't have a choice. Either way you can do it. You need to get to a place where you can feel indifferently towards this girl. Don't stop been friends, smile, make small talk, even if you don't feel like it. Focus your energies on your work, and other things that you have going on in your life. The better you feel about yourself the more chance you have of meeting someone else and this lady might even see what she is missing, good luck!
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