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writes: I dated a man for three years, great relationship, and were talking marriage. I kept putting on the pressure for a proposal, he got cold feet, and ended things mid-August. We had no contact for about two months. Then he contacted me, we talked, and I agreed to have dinner with him. Feelings came flooding back and we have grown closer over the last month and a half. We are spending a lot more time together, and he says that he loves me. We have not yet talked about where this is headed. He brought me out to see his parents last weekend, and this week, asked me to go home with him for the Christmas holidays and celebrate with his family like we always did. What do you make of this with him involving the families now? Do you think this is his way of trying to get back together?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 December 2006): I say ask him straight out. And decide if you are going to be happy with just dating like it was before and no marriage in the future because he still sounds like he is scared to commit and just wants to go back to how thing were before the split...that is what is comfortable and what is the routine.
People like familiarity and routines; it brings them security.
Maybe enjoy the Holidays for now...then have the "talk" after the New Year.
Either way it needs to be addressed and discussed and decided upon.
It sounds like you are done putting your life on hold and want a committed/married status.
Best of Wishes.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 December 2006): Yes girl, you go for it but take your time and have fun. Good luck!
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