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writes:Hi,I am in need of some relationship advice!!I broke up from my girlfriend approximately 1 and a half months ago. My relationship with her lasted just short of two years, which for both of us was the longest time we had committed to anyone before. Now i am faced with those terrible thoughts...what is she doing, who with, why....etc. I'm going down the wrong pathway searching for questions that are making me feel really low. I'm struggling to sleep at night and get on with my day, because I am struggling to move away from the thought thats she's moving on, or is she?? I'm very confused, and i know i must move on with my life and look to the future, but its difficult.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 June 2007): My boyfriend of three years and I broke up this past summer, and are now back together, but he worries ceaselessly over the things I did when we were not together. The truth is that, especially if you broke up with her, she is probably going through a truly difficult time. Perhaps she is moving on to try and forget you, or maybe she isn't. But it is not your concern. If you love her, than you want her to be happy, and I'm sure she wants you to be as well. Move on and be more confident in yourself, and then it won't be as hard if you see her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 May 2007): Yes you need to move on. You are young and you have your whole life ahead of you to meet people that you can get along with. Love does not conquer all...i used to fight wiht my bf all the time...we have broken up numerous times....you have to chose your battles and you if you cannot find any middle ground, and agree to disagree then it will be better for th eboth of you to move.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 May 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi guys, thanks for your quick response. The feedback you have given is really asking me if i still love her. Yes i still do. But i dont think that was enough to carry on the relationship. It was changing us both for the worse, arguments were becoming more aggressive, and we was both very very unhappy. We had attempted to give it numerous efforts to keep the relationship alive but it came back to the same problems. Thats why its so difficult being in this situation, we both ended a relationship when we both still love each other. Now i'm just thinking about what happens if i bump into her on a night out, at the gym etc, how am i going to cope, what if she's with another guy? but i suppose if that happens, she must not love me like she use to, which means i need to move on, right?
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reader, DV1  +, writes (27 May 2007):
 When you give someone two years of your life, it's normal to feel this way. Just because you break up with someone doesn't mean that a part of you doesn't love them. It sounds like you're still in love with her, and that you never really got to say your peace to get closure.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 May 2007): First you didn't mention if you still loved her? Why wouldn't you say that? You must miss her right? Why didn't you say those words?
I think you need to have a talk with her and see if she is feeling the same way you are. Depending on how things ended between you guys, it may be easier for you to just write her a letter, and have it come from the heart. Be honest anand then see what she has to say to you...she may be feeling the same way you do but you will never know until you find out...time heals all wounds so if you wait too long you may just be too late...
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