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writes:yeah see I have just broken up with my ex-boyfriend.The bad thing is that he is now with my cousin but still treats me like I'm his girlfriend.He touches me and like you know and all.I could tell like my cousin may hate me for that.I tell him sometimes to back off. He just couldn't...because he says that HE STILL LOVES ME. The thing i don't want to be the reason why they will be apart. I have moved on,but he's not.What should I do? Cause it's driving me crazy
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 March 2007): Don't have any more contact with him. That is, don't go out socially when he and your cousin will be there. If this means not going to the same club or bar you used to hang out at, so be it.Next time he calls you, tell him that since you have broken up, you are moving on with your life and that he is not to call, text or email you again, not to come knocking on your door, either. Tell him once and once only, and don't permit him to get into a discussion with you about it. No negotiating; no if's and's or but's. Its finished, and that's all there to it.Okay. You'll have given him fair warning. If he continues to phone after that, if you are home and you see his caller ID, pick up the phone, but then immediately hang up without saying anything. He'll get the message that you meant what you said about no contact. Delete his texts/emails without reading them. If he comes to your door, don't open it. If necessary (and I hope it won't be) change your locks, block any emails from him and either block or change your phone number - yes, that's a bit drastic, but if you really have moved on, that's what you have to do......but hopefully, a few times where you don't respond to emails or answer his calls, should do it.Good luck!
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