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writes:hi I was in a realtionship for a year and a half. It was a serious relationship. We started as friends 9 months ago and then we had a relationship for a year and a half. Our relationship was great . However the guy was always stressed he was during his last year of university and also ivolved in alot of organisations. He decided to put a stop at the relationship in order to settle everything out. He needs to lead a single life for a while . the break up was not harsh and we still talked . But 5 months passed without ever meeting up even if we saw each other a couple of times all of a sudden without expecting one another. But he broke up admitting his feelings are stil the same.and i want to know if they are still there or not now after this time. Mine are still there as i sent him an email but he didn't answer anything back.What is it the truth. He has now enterd university again and he has exam at the moment thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 January 2007): The truth? This seem harsh but the truth has to be said. I don't think he's on the 'same page' as you. In fact, I feel he's emotionally bailed already..it's just that you can fathom that because you are sooo blinded by your own emotions. He tells you he still cares but his behaviours don't show it, do they? For 5 months, you have waited patiently for your man to decide he cherishes you. He has ignored your e-mail, he has basically ignored 'you' as a whole, like you don't exist. If you have to wait for man who is not responding, there's a problem, here. I can't for the life of me, understand why we gals love to wait around for a man. We sit and wait, ignoring, denying and rationalizing excuse after excuse as to why these guys are not forthcoming. Let me just say that when a man wants to be with a woman, nothing and I mean, nothing, will stop him from being by her side. Now is time to use clarity and get real. Why don't you heal, recover and quit waiting. Get out there and find the man who will make you a priorty and can't wait to love you the way you so richly deserve. Start giving yourself a better life and stop ...waiting!! Good luck hun and keep us posted.
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reader, cd206 +, writes (17 January 2007):
 Give him time. He said he needed to concentrate on his last year of uni and you're in no position to move on if you still love him as much as you say you do. He'll be finished uni in a few months. Wait and see what happens but don't pressure him right now, you'll only drive him away. Even if he doesn't want to get back together when he finishes uni you'll still have his friendship and respect for having given him the time and space he needs.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 January 2007): well i guess that you have to have an open mind. at this point in time he seems focused on himself and nothing is coming in his way . Maybe he still feels the same way but he cant be honest as he feels he has let you down and at the moment he is not ready to commit to a relationship. he might still be struggling to finf his own feet as a guy on his own let alone commit to someone. he surely knows how you feel. Dont wait forhim built ur life ..then if things are meant for you to be together it will fall into place when you least expect it.
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