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writes:i am working in a cruise ship. so i have to stay away from my family for every 9 months. i miss my family every time. i want my wife to work and take experience so that we both can migrate to any other country and earn better and have a better life together. but my wife don't like to work. she is well educated, but not interested to work. she want to spend time with children and like to be a house wife. most important she dont want to live her country. please help me what should i do? thank u Reply to this Question
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (25 March 2013):
 IF she wishes to stay where she is, and is comfortable where she is, then I'm afraid there is not much you can do.
Most women here would give anything to stay home with their children. I can understand why she wishes to be a stay at home mom.
I'm not sure that you can even come to a compromise until the children are much older.
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reader, Intrigued3000  +, writes (25 March 2013):
 I agree with the anonymous female who answered your question. I would also like to add that if you enjoy a comfortable lifestyle in your own country, the grass is not necessarily greener on the other side. I live in a country where new immigrants are arriving all the time, and the first hardship they experience is the fact that they have to work harder, longer hours at lower paying jobs just to survive. Your children will reap the benefits of your hard work and sacrifice, but both you and your wife may have to give up your comfortable lifestyle to achieve this, and it has to be team effort to achieve success. Cost of living is very high in most major cities and it takes two salaries to survive, not just one.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 March 2013): I fully understand why you would want to leave India as I have visited the place. I can appreciate you want to give your family a better life.
I suggest you threaten her with divorce and see if she will want to go overseas with you.
Its unfair to want you to only work, then also not see your family for 9 months, she needs to learn to compromise. If she does not want to work , thats okay but as your wife she should be there for you. SO she is just happy to have a part time husband as long as you bring in the money.
I think she is selfish and a marriage is a partnership. What she does not understand that if you both work hard now, you can look forward to a more comfortable life in your old age. Also it creates great opportunities for your kids education. So in my opinion your wife should consider whats best for the family and not what suits her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 March 2013): I really don't know what you can do here.It's not that she is doing something wrong, I personally think that stay at home mom is the hardest job on earth, it's not like she is lazy, it's just what she wants in life. If she doesn't want to move, then she doesn't want to move. You guy needed to discuss it before hand. I think now it's kind of late.
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