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writes:I have been with my g/f for 3 years and two months i am 24 and she is 21, recently things have been going down hill and we have been drifting apart, this has been happening for a while, i dont want to hurt her on one hand by bringing this up but also i do not want to carry on like this either, we are total opposites and i dont see a future, I have booked us a holiday for the summer hoping we can work on this but i feel i would be living a lie for her to carry on thinking everything is ok.The weekend jus gone i met a gal while my gf was away, nothing happend even though she was very keep but its made me think even more i am stuck in a realtionship i am not happy in.We have a lot of things in joint names and both of our money tied into a business. Its taken me this long to find out this is how i feel, i still love her but our ways clash and i dont see a future.i would love some adivse as my mind is truely messed up at the moment.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (28 April 2008):
Joint bills can be sorted out very easily. I've been set up on join bills loads of times when I've been sharing a house.
Talk to her about it. Tell her you aren't happy. Chances are she is thinking the same thing.
If you break up in a friendly way then you can stay business partners so that won't be too much of a problem.
As for the bills, you'll just have to sort out who stays in the flat and who goes. Then ring the companies and get things put into one name only.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (28 April 2008):
 You are two completely different individuals and there will always be differences of opinions.
In everything , you need to seek the middle road or compromise .
Give and take some.
Opposite attracts and that is what attracted you together.
Being opposite has it's good and bad points.
Your weakness could be her strength and vice versa.
You should be able to complement each other.
Just because of some disagreements , you think there is no future together.
In life, there are always problems. Two heads are better than one.
Tackle the problems one at a time and keep those issues separately.
You are both in the same boat and you need to row in the same directions.
If you want to reach land , you will have to agree which directions to go.
You cannot be rowing in the opposite directions.
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