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writes:hello to all, this story is quite long. but please read it and advice.i am 16 currently. i am in a relation with someone. the problem is that i feel he is opposing too much on me though he loves me very much. am actually the 3rd girl in his life. he got some physical relation with the second one but not sex.only kiss and touchif i have to talk about the positive sides of marrying him is that he will always support me throughout my life. he will never betray me that for sure and will always love me.my problems are:1. i told him that after marriage i would not like to live in a joint family. in fact he has already build his own house separately from his mum. his mum will be living downstairs and us upstairs. the staircase is outside his mum house and he told me that he will be putting it inside so that her mum does not get the tension of getting out of the house whenever she has to come to meet us. by doing this assume the house will be one since now the door will be one. i don't like this because (i) i want privacy in my life(ii) i don't want anyone to enter in my house without my permission which is more likely to happen(iii) i don't want to be oblige to seek permission or inform his mum when going out(iv) i will also don't want that everyone know who is visiting me and sothis is my first problem. please help2. my second problem is that he has problem with my dress i wear. he does not want me to wear jeans even on long blouse, no short sleeves and he does not want be to wear dresses that is above my knee. he says after marriage he would not like me to wear this. because he does not want any other men to look at me and masturbate at home. frankly am a girl that like to wear modern clothes i don't think i'll be able to cope with this.3. my last problem is my mum and dad. they are totally against him. his job was one among the reason. due to that he is doing a course now so that my mom do not have any complaints afterwards. now my mum want me to marry a guy who has his house separate which is not the case. the age gap is a problem here 2. and the worst is his complexion that my mum is against. seriously i don't have any complaint with his physical characteritics. i love him for who he isplease help me to solve these 3 problems. i shall be thankful to you Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 September 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks to all for your reply. i need more advice please help
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 September 2010): If you have all these problems then why are you even considering marrying him? Don't marry him you are going to regret it very much. he sounds controlling and possessive. You shoudld be able to wear the clothes you want. You be in control of you. Never let a man tell you what to do. I don't know what the normal age is to get married where you are from, but i think no matter what, 16 is way too early to get married. You are young and haven't experienced life yet, you don't know what you want. If there are all these things you don't like about marrying him, then DON'T do it. Good luck and i really hope you take my advise.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 September 2010): If I were you, I wouldn't marry this guy
The first problem is too serious. It can spoil your marriage
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