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writes:So i wrote the other day about the guy i loved having sex with someone else at the start of summer. Today he and i spoke and we had agreed to not be exclusive because we are both going to college. Although i feel it is the right thing to do i am very sad right now. My question is when does it get any easier? Everyone told us we should not be together as a couple going away to college but it does not feel right at all...please help! Reply to this Question
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reader, bballchick +, writes (26 August 2007):
bballchick is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you all so much...juss hope i can remember it when i am at school!!!!!
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reader, lost666  +, writes (26 August 2007):
 yeah i think it is the right thing to do for now anyway.you could always keep up friendly contact? remember that life works in mysterious ways it could be that time apart will make him grow up that little bit..i really still love my ex 2 and i know that he loves me too but he isn't mature enough for a relationship, hes just not ready, maybe somewhere down the line he will be you know?? dont lose faith do your best to enjoy college and get the best out of it. and remember (i am still learning this lesson) getting the guy will not itself make you 100 %content , you have to live your own life and make yourself happy first. take care i know it feels like life is so bad right now but things will get better. hang in therexxx
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reader, bballchick +, writes (26 August 2007):
bballchick is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI know you are both right...but i really love him...so i guess the right thing to do is to give him the space we need and if it is meant to be it will be...
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reader, lost666 +, writes (26 August 2007):
Ok honey I know exactly what you're going through, we're the same age and probably experience the same problems in love!!I know this is hard to hear because i've been in your position but I think you need to let him go for now. College is a time for new experiences and meeting new people so I think it would do you good to get away. Time away will give you new perspective on the situation. I find that sometimes when you are in close proximity to the one you love it is hard to see things clearly. There is no pain worse than wanting to be someone but circumstances wont let you. Maybe time apart will make him realise what he really wants?? I have finally 100% split with my bf who i broke up with months ago but kept seeing him and it is sooo hard but i believe that if it is meant to be it will happen. Youre so young time is on your side. Take care of yourself xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 August 2007): For me, it usually gets easier when I start meeting other people. I'll start hanging out with my friends and going out to dinner and parties and before I know it I have already met three different guys. And they are all calling. And then my life just starts to become real fun, light and humorous. And I realise how fun being single is and how fun hanging out with girls is. And then I end up forgetting about the guy who I was SOOOO head over heals for without even realising that I did!And eventually I meet someone who I think is SOOO great. And if by chance I think back of my ex, I realise what a loser he was and how stupid I was to like him so much. And my new guy is always SOOO much better anyways. And that is how it usually happens. And it'll happen again and again.
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