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writes:Thanks in advance to any help anyone can give me here as I am at the end of my rope. There is a woman on my volunteer'team' who is giving my quite the run for my money. She can be pleasant but can turn on a dime and she is more apt to do it in front of friends and peers. I do not think people think that highly of her but it is tiring. She is constantly asking me if I am ' behaving' and making misinformed and harassing comments about me in front of colleagues and peers. I mentioned I would like to market more of our product to singles as a target audience and she asked if I was looking for a date....I was flabergasted. She was insistent that we all pose for a photo and I assertively said no and kept repeating it firmly like a broken record till a colleague remarked that she already had enough photos. This person has no social skills and is treating me like.... I have no intention of putting up with it. Any thoughts on why she is doing this and how to deal with it would be appreciated. I do not see her doing this with othes but have observed her very pointedly ignoring and refusing to acknowlege others.
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reader, Artistry  +, writes (12 July 2008):
 Hi there, Now this is only my opinion, but to me there seems to be some sort of attraction here, from this woman to you. She is either gay or bi-sexual, and does not know how to let you know that she is attracted to you for fear of being rejected. So she is acting on her feelings of being rejected before it even happens. This could be entirely wrong, but from your letter, this is what I am picking up. I would suggest, if you are strong in your sexuality and can handle it, you try to be a bit friendlier toward her, not to much so, you really don't want to lead her on, if she is attracted to you. But you want to let her know in a way, that you think she is a nice person, but you are totally not interested in her in any other way, without alienating her. This is a delicate operation, if you don't want to try it, don't. Otherwise I would just do my job, be polite and ignore her antics, when she moves on to another object of her affection, she will forget about you. Hang in there, time will change it hopefully. Take care.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 July 2008): heya...
hmmm...i reckon its a case of jelousy! she may see you as competition. whatever u do-dont play dirty back .. be the adult , ask her if she has a minuite, and tell her that you feel patronized by her comments, and that if this continues you will speak to whoever is incharge. also ask her, if she has anything personal against you. if she doesnt stop- take it to someone with more power.
i really do think shes envious of something u have and she doesnt.
love and god bless
friend x
(p.s also- she may not be thinking that she is doing anything wrong-maybe thats the kind of person she is)
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