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male
age
51-59,
*igawalt
writes:I am in a long distance relationship with a woman who is 42. I am 43. We have only seen each other 3times in the last 7 months and had sex on two of those occasions. I love her and she says she loves me completely. However a few weeks ago her secret sex partner found her phone and called me and texted me to stay away from his girl. I actually spoke with the kid, he's in his 20's and he told me about their sexual history and past. He said it was his girl and I should respect their relationship. I was devastated. All the lies she told me when I could not contact her it turned out she was sleeping with this kid. Well a fight between my "girlfriend" ensued and she called the police, she told me she wanted nothing further to do with him, it was just sex and she could seperate sex from her love for me. Long story short I took her back. Things were great until the other day again I could not get in contact with her. She texts me late at night that her young sex partner was in an accident and she picked him up at the hospital and took him to his home! What is that? She should have zero contact with him! What should I do? Is it time to man up and walk away?
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 October 2011): Do go NO CONTACT as soon as possible. you can do way better dude! Goodluck !
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (11 October 2011):
 I'm in an LDR and I can tell you yep if you are not around it's easy to cheat... if you don't trust her (and you have no reason to) I'd end it.
either she's with YOU or she's with him... she can't have it both ways...
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reader, YouWish +, writes (11 October 2011):
 WHAT?!
Cheating is cheating is cheating!!!
Man up and walk away. You already know this. Don't sell yourself short. You are still virile at your age, even more so.
Find someone better. That won't be hard to do.
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reader, GhostChild  +, writes (11 October 2011):
 That's the problem with long distance, it's easy to cover up the lies.
The fact that she was honest with you and said that she picked this kid up says to me that she was probably sincerely helping him. However, he must still be on her mind, I'm sure he has family and friends that could help.
You need to talk to her about this urgently, ask her what she wants. Love with you, or a sexual fling with some 20-year-old who will probably get bored of her eventually.
Love lasts, but sex doesn't.
You're going to have to lay down the law and tell her that it makes you feel uncomfortable that she is even in contact with this guy. If she continues to see this kid, then it'll be in your best interest to up and leave.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 October 2011): kick this woman to the curb. she is lieing to you. she is still having sex with this youngster. she is pulling the wool over your eyes.
this woman will continue to lie and you will be sucked into this mess. right now she has a itch that she wants scratched. u have only seen her 3 times. she is everyday in this young mans bed. can you see her clearly now.
LoveGirl
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