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writes:heya,i recently met a guy from an internet site (dont worry i did it safely) and he seems very intrested when im with him and mostly when i speak to him. however i know its wrong but i feel i was right to check his last log on and even after we went on our dates, etc. he still logs in on his account every day. Does that mean hes not as intrested as i am? if so he seems to be sending out all of the wrong signals he says he realy likes me and mentiond hed be intrested in a long term relationship but sites like that are for single people and unless hes gay im confused.please reply im just soo puzzled i dont want to get hurt. Reply to this Question
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reader, mcbirdie +, writes (26 April 2007):
 The simplest advice is the truest: ask him. There is no magical way to tell why someone is doing something other than to talk about it. He may be logging on because he isn't sure yet if you two ARE getting serious and he isn't ready to stop looking until you are. Or he may be logging on because he has made other friends on the site and likes to keep in touch with them (this is certainly true for me and my friends).
If you are thinking of getting serious with this guy, then you need to be comfortable talking about the relationship and your expectations. If you consider logging onto these sites inappropriate, you need to tell him that.
And just as a quick note--pondering whether or not he is gay simply because he didn't stop logging onto a site once he met you is unfair and silly. If you have other reasons to consider his sexuality, fine, but otherwise...I wouldn't bring that up again.
Best of luck.
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