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writes: Okay so theres this guy we'll call him Sergio that i really really like alot!. Well Sergio and I have only known each other for like 5 months but we have become really good friends. And everyone at school thinks he likes me too. Hes always acting all flirty around me and hes asking me for hugs and stuff like that. Well when we started getting to really learn more about each other there was the perfect opportunity for him and me to be alone. Well he invited me over and so of course I went. We just talked alot and then we were laying on his bed and well just stuff happened lol. We didnt have sex, but we sure were close. Well i hesitated telling my best friend about it cause i thought it was kinda personal, but i had to tell her so i did. This was all almost exactly a month ago. But I found out, on friday, that had told his share of ppl what we had done. Sergio is one of those charming guys that has sleep with a couple women. )(We've talked about it) While I on the other hand am still a virgin so I was really nervous when we took it to that level. Well anyway I did get kinda mad that he actually told ppl about it, but im over that now, but then I found out that he still isnt over his ex. He didnt tell me this, but im like 98% sure its true. Well I havent talked to him in like 3 weeks except for some hi's that we exchange in the hall during passing periods. But do you guys think that this guy likes me? He has told me that he loves me but how can I be sure, and especially if theres another girl on his mind(btw she has a bf now so shes over him).
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 May 2008): from the information you have provided me, I've been able to come up with at least 5 things you might want to consider, or ask yourself.1.well ask yourself this I guess... "How long have they been broken up?" if its been about the same amount of time since the 2 of you almost had sex wouldn't it be wise to wonder if you might just be his rebound?(tho it might not of been intentional)2. Men can be really DENSE... and your not talking of the "event" might of scared him into thinking you aren't interested in him, or that you regret things that happened that night.(also a side note: A lot of men like to have their ego stroked and talking to their buddies an bragging are ways that they do that. bragging to his friends about you, might just be his way of saying that your his.)3.if he is thinking about his ex, and hes been going around telling all his friends about the almost event tho, it's possible that he just wants to make his ex jealous.(if hes that kind of boy.)4.(from experience) dating another guy doesn't necessarily mean your over your ex. especially in the teenage years of ones life, we tend to play games of cat and mouse.5.I think the best way to get the right answer, is to just take a deep breath, and ask him. "Whats going on with us? is there even a "us" to begin with?"... now I don't know him, or his ex, but I mean in some cases it might even be wise to ask his ex, if its ok for you to be going after him, and make sure that their relationship is truly over.
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reader, Darkthorn  +, writes (6 May 2008):
 It seems like he need to talk to you about this next time you see him let him know that you know that his ex is on his mind and get him to discuss it with you.To be honest i have had this problem but it turned out okay he reasurred me that he loved me and i got him never to speak about his ex or to see his ex ever again.Let him know it makes you feel the way you do and if he did really love you then he would abide by those small little rules.As for you if he says the same goes for you if you really like this guy you should willing change and if you have told ghim never to speak or see his exs you do the same.
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