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51-59,
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writes:I was seeing this guy a while ago, we've known each other a long time but started to get more romantic lately. However he showed a side of himself that I never knew existed before. It was very strange he started 'joking' about scenes in porn films, talking about his favourite porn star and asked me whether I wanted to watch porn with him (I declined). He talked about anal sex and I could tell he was trying to guage my reaction. I told him I wasnt into it at all and he accepted it. However once he lightly touched my anus during intercourse and I pushed his hand away. He often made jokes about 'fisting' and things like that and I freaked out in the end and told him that I think he's a pervert. What he doesnt know is that I was sexually abused in a past relationship and this was all a reminder for me. I tried to tell him why I had freaked out in this way but he does not seem to want to know and has pushed me away. I dont call him any more and he has reacted angrily to me a couple of times and now I dont hear from him either. Is this guy just looking for kinky sex do you think? He is 42 and never seems to have had a very significant woman in his life. Am I wasting my time with this man?
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 October 2010): I find this man disrespectful, highly immature, and insensitive as he fails to understand your past relationship. I am VERY sorry you had to go thru such a thing. That is awfully sad. Im sure youre a great person. Forget this guy. He's not a match clearly and you are wasting your time.
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reader, Taylaa.x +, writes (3 October 2010):
This man doesn't deserve your time. If he can't respect you then you shouldnt even bother! It looks to me as if he's just looking for a hook up. Or a relationship that is just going to be all about him and what he wants. Move on lovely, you sound like you have been through a lot and you really deserve someone better than that. Someone that will understand when you tell them about your past. Good luck honey! I hope i helped! x
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