A
male
age
30-35,
*uhwtf
writes:Ok so Im gay and have been forever. When I was younger I slept with a lot of men, only once had an experience with a girl after a lot of alcohol but neither of us enjoyed it in the slightest.At 21 Im getting ready to settle down, found a man I love and we are getting married this year. The only problem is that I think im losing my mind. After 21 years of no interest im starting to think about women in a sexual way, Im not sure if this is just a curiosity thing or I am starting to turn bi? Ive been thinking about trying something out for a few months now but never would as I just couldn't cheat on him.Is it even possible for a person to flip sexuality at this age? Why would this be happening to me now when I finally have life all figured out? Is it possible its just a curiosity thing because its something Ive never done and I would end up hating it? Anyone else out there ever been in a situation even vaguely resembling this one? Reply to this Question
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reader, countrylover0976  +, writes (10 March 2011):
I am a gay male and can understand this dilemma. I had curious feelings and wondered about the opposite sex and what it could offer.
I then realized something. We all have thoughts, even sexually, what another person would be like. Male or female. Some guys wonder if they are "long" enough and compare themselves to other guys they have seen in the locker room.
Everyone in relationships has seen a "cute" or "nice-looking" person other than their significant other. In my case, I wondered what it would be like. Then I also considered how in the world am I going to tell a woman that I have had already had a 12 year relationship with a male only. How would I even get a girl to respond to that? I also then realized that curiosity gets the best of us and we all have imaginations.
I don't mean to degrade anyone bisexual, but I guess I worry about the factor that if I was going to be involved, am I going to be left when she might find a woman she likes better than me?
Count your blessings you have -
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female
reader, anonymous, writes (10 March 2011): Cold feet maybe? you are only 21 years old. To be honest most women would not want be with a man who slept with other men or if they did, they be very insecure.
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