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writes: I went out clubbing with my friend tonight,and i liked a guy we were talking to in there.At first,it seemed like he liked me,as he was asking how old i was and kept looking at me,and even my friend said she thought he fancied me.After a while though,he sat her on his knee,and was stroking her leg,and she didnt do anything to stop it,or try and get off his leg.We went to the ladies room,and i told her that i liked him.When we went and sat back down,the guys friend asked her if she liked him,the guy i liked,and she said she did.He kept putting his arm around ehr aswell and she didnt stop him from doing that.She kept asking if i was ok though,and kept holding my hand.Abit later,they went upstairs to another room together,and after they had been there a while,me and the guys friend went up to them to see what was going on.The guys friend had said that he liked me friend too,and didnt like that his friend was chatting my friend up.I couldnt help feeling jealous of my friend,and annoyed that they guy was cahtting her up.We even got into abit of an arguement and i said i wanted to leave.She also danced with him to a slow song abit later.We are both in our twenties,and so was this guy.At the end of the night,we got a lift home,but i went and sat in the car,and she was still with the guy for afew minutes,they were behind a wall so its obvious they must have either been kissing or swapping numbers or both.we dropped her off at home,and before she elft,she said we would have to meet up again.usually,she waited near her house before we turned round,she lives in a cul-de-sac,and she would wave to us then go into her house,but when we had turned round tonight,she had already gone in the house.She seems to chat to any guy who will give her attention.Once another guy chatted her up,and she started kissing him,she hadnt even paid him attention before then,another time,she danced in a flirty way infront of another guy who was talking to her.Normally,we are good friends,as we have things in common,but i'm starting to wonder if its worth continuing our friendship.I know some young people can be stupid when they go out drinking,i'm pretty sensible compared to some young people.I was also annoyed with the guy,as i felt he was taking the mick.He even said he wanted me to get with his friend,and he would be with my friend.What do you think ?.I feel bad for getting jealous of my friend,but if it was me,and i knew she liked someone,even if i liked them too,i wouldnt bother with them if i knew she liked them too.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 January 2009): i also feel like telling her not to come crying to me if she sees him again and he dumps her,as i get the impression he will only be after one thing anyway,or something very short term,and yet i have always been a good friend to her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 January 2009): I can accept that he was into her,what i cant accept is that she was all over him when :1.She lied and told me she didnt like him,and she felt he was all over her too much.2:She knew i liked him and yet she was still all over him.
I think i had mentioned that i liked him to her,before he sat her on his knee aswell.
I dont like getting jealous of people,but it can be hurtful if a friend gets all the attention.It's strange,because when i'm not with her,i get alot of attention from guys anyway.I am starting to wonder if she is either a " skank " though,or just someone who's very insecure and will flirt with anyone who pays her attention.When i was talking to the guy's friend about it,he even asked me if she was a slag,which is another word for skank.A couple of times,her and the guy even looked at each other and laughed,not sure why,and when i went upstairs to look for them,the guy told me to go back downstairs,and my friend just sat there and didnt even say she was going to go downstairs too.
It's actually put me off going out drinking aswell,as i hate the way some young people behave.I do have other interests though,like watching shows at a theatre or going to concerts.
I didnt think my friend was like that at all,as she seems polite and quite shy normally,and she also likes going to concerts and shows aswell as going drinking.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 January 2009): I am sorry but it was obvious at the point that HE sat her on his knee that he was into her not you, thus u shuldn't ahve told her u liked him straite after in the bathroom, cos it's clear that he's a skank who only likes her, and thus u put her in an awkward position.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 January 2009): Sorry to put it this way honey,but you want the truth? I think your friend is doing it on purpose.I think she is skanky to be kissing on guys like she does.They probably went upstairs to bump uglies.If she is like that, and doesnt seem to care what you think, dump her, and move on,thats what I would do. Real friends dont hurt you.
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