A
female
age
51-59,
anonymous
writes:I am worried that I have made a big mistake. I met a guy a few weeks ago, and we are both in our 40s. We really hit it off and have had a great time just being together. He acted very interested in me--lots of heavy kissing, etc. Well, Friday night things got more heated and we ended up having sex. I thought it was great--but I'm worried that he didn't feel the same. He invited me over to his house to watch a movie today, but didn't comment about the previous night and didn't act interested in me sexually. Am I just worrying too much? Was it too soon to have sex? I'm thinking that maybe my mother was right and after you have sex with a guy, he won't be interested anymore. The other thing that bothers me is that I don't have a perfect body--in fact, far from it. Maybe he was turned off by that. What do you think? I know this probably sounds ridiculous, but I can't sleep worrying about this.
View related questions:
kissing Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
reader, anonymous, writes (16 August 2009): He invited you over to watch a movie, need you say any more. All guys go for all different girls. All girls have good and bad things about their bodies. It's alright to have sex straight away since the circumstances were right and there was no guilt involved, such as if you had a boyfriend and if he had a boyfriend. But you know and this probably isn't the case, some guys don't say anything if they have herpes. And if there's an outbreak, all stopping. So just watch yourself if you don't know too much about a guy or girl. He may have been genuinely interested in the movie. Also, if men have some-thing on their minds, they can sometimes zombie out. But you'll know if he is interested or not by announcing you to others as his girl and telling you that himself too.
A
female
reader, aphexinfinite  +, writes (16 August 2009):
 i think you need to talk about this. but seriously if he wasnt interested then why would he invite you over. and as for the sex thing perhaps he was embarresed to talk about it so he didnt mention it. he could be a good guy or a bad one but if you dont talk about it you will always wonder what if. perhaps hes not just interested in sex so as the other person said have a talk with him it will make you feel better knowing were you stand with this good luck aphex xx
...............................
A
reader, anonymous, writes (16 August 2009): It's always a possibility that you're right, but it's also a possibility that he is still interested. Maybe he was just trying to show that he's interested in all of you, not just sex, so he invited you over and didn't make a move. Tell him that you wonder why he did that and ask him if he's still interested. Take his word for what he says. If he says he's still interested, then he's a good guy and is interested in more than just sex. If not, then cut things off and find someone else. There are always more people out there. Good luck.
...............................
|
