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writes:Was I right to sleep with my babies father Christmas night?I have not been very happy with him for sometime as we do not live together, we are not talking about a more commited relationship. He has not introduced me to his family. (Our son is now nearly 7!) He is also very secretive. I have asked, I have made suggestions. Last night we sat up and talked and I realised it was me doing all the talking and he was not sharing anything.I need s sole mate. He asked me last night whether I still loved him. I told him that I do not know him. When I think about it - I dont really. I hae known him for 26 years but do not know him.I have had a crush on someone for over a year and he is very much in my thoughts but I am having problems moving that friendship on.If any men are reading this - why wont my bf confide and share things with me? Is it a man thing. I do feel he does not want to burden me with his problems but something is not right!Any suggestions or words of advice welcomed.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 December 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI did not want to make my problem too long but I do feel this guy does care for me in a funny way. We are not married but friends for 26 years. he has been very supportive towards me and my children. A fairly good dad to his own child. Will maintain him to an extent. He does listen to me and my problems and offers advice. so its not all bad. He came round with present s for me and the children. It could have been worst and me on my own. He have only been intimate twice during the last year and that was on holiday together. So he knows I am not happy. i feel he is trying but may be I am not being clear enough. I said to him that I feel its cruel the way he is treating his son by denying him contact with his grandmother.
He has promised to help me out with a few issues next week so I may do more talking and make a decision from there.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 December 2009): No, you probably shouldn't have slept with him if he doesn't love you and you don't seem to love him, either. But to each his own, I guess. I would stop trying to work things out with him since it doesn't seem to be going anywhere, and try to find someone that will really love you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 December 2009): sounds like you might've slept with him to sort out your own feelings or force him to catch some. If he is still hiding you after 26 years of knowing each other and 7 year old child then you need to let go, He is clearly ashamed of you if his family has no knowledge of you and you have his child. I wouldnt say it's a big deal you slept with him, as long as you didnt get preggo again, just take as a goodbye f*** and move on, you deserve better, if not you then definitely your child deserves better.
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