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writes: Warning, get settled in. I'm not totally "sheltered" but extreme conservative. This 50-year-old, 6', 175 lb.-a bit too husky but long torso'd, more-than-attractive say all, never-married Texas gal, deeply dedicated Christian (a virgin until 36) and only 2 other 1-nighters, both in 1999 thank you very much, never been pregnant. Ha, yes, I need your advice: Recently I worked conducting a 2-day survey, staying 6 hrs each day at small drug store. Average survey took a minimum 10 minutes (buyers of pain killers). 1 survey was of Mr. B, Store MGR. Survey asked age (47) and marital status (also never-married) and educ. (he's completing 3 degrees- 1 business and 2 computers). B has a full handle-bar moustache, is about 6'1", great smile, and "seemed" all man. Explained later how he came to Christ in '99. We chatted 1 or 2 hours in the aisle. THEN Day 2 of my survey work: He found me in the employee-lounge, ran out and bought me a $5.00 energy drink. Looking back, I could've suggested coffee later (but wanted HIM to). I'm so totally honest, I accidentally let it slip that recently I succumbed to renting a bed and bathroom from a guy. WELL -Maybe Mr. B snubbed his nose at that (I know I would- ha!) AND maybe noticed that 2 OTHER men spoke a long time to me also (oops, I've not had this much att'n since home-based Bible study group 1996.) ALSO- B got understandibly disgruntled when I failed to turn off a new clock alarm I thought would stop by itself shortly (it didn't -oops, that's never happened). It was stashed under coat 20' away in cart; he wheeled it over during my interview of the guy, was not happy. Later at 10pm, when locking the store doors he hesitated 10 minutes to chat with me. I failed to apologize (not thinking). We spoke of concerts and laughed. Then as he locked the door he asked if I'd be back next day. I said no. He raised his eyebrows and said, "Well, nice meeting you. Have a great night." - or some such and quickly locked the door. He had helped me to my car the night before. I was surprised. A week later I went inside store for 20 minutes, but he never waltzed by. What's your suggestion? THANKS.
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reader, buzzie  +, writes (14 February 2006):
After reading your question, it seemed that this guy was definately interested in you. A guy wouldnt go out and buy you a drink like that unless he had some sort of interest in you. I think he was interested in you until you mentioned that you were renting a room from another man. That probably made him think that you were in a relationship with him. It all makes sense, you said yourself that his attitude towards you changed drastically. You said he was extremly annoyed at you when an alarm went off? Well if he were really attracted to you and was planning to ask you out he wouldnt have been upset, or atleast not have shown you he was upset even if he really was. Also, you stated that the first night he walked you to you car, and the next night he didn't. Another HUGE indicator that whatever he felt for you in the first day was now replaced by feelings of hurt, or annimosity.
If you want my personal opinion, I think this guy is being really immature. You said he was 47 and never married? Well there's probably a good reason for that. He obviously has issues with woman. It sounds like he's looking for a virgin ripe for picken. Maybe when you told him you were a Christian and never married he thought you'd make a good wife/gf, but as soon as you mentioned you were renting from another man whatever fantasies he had of you were dashed.
I don't think this man would have made a very good bf anyways. He sounds from what you've described as very possesive and jealous, qualities that would make a horrible husband. Be glad that he's no longer interested in you. So yes, in answer to your original question, yes; he showed signs he was interested in the beginning, but when he learned more about you and you didn't meet up to his fantasy of what he wanted in a woman, he lost interest. You also asked what you should do? NOTHING. He's a loser. Move on.
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