A
female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:If you could help me out with an ex-boyfriend of mine it would be great, my friends haven’t been very useful at helping me out with him!I went out with a guy, 4 years ago, we were out for about 8 months, but had liked each other a year or so before that. We split up when he went to a Californian University, 3 hours from me. I haven't seen him since we were still together, but I’ve spoken to him 2 or 3 times on Yahoo Messenger. Anyway, as we were in near his University on a shopping spree, I decided to text him, and he asked what I was up to during the day, said about going for a drink and to play pool at a nearby bar, but he wasn't free until 8, after he'd finished his shift at work, so we asked if he wanted to meet up the next day. Beforehand I was really nervous as I hadn't seen him for so long... but when we met up it was so good, just like old times... He hadn’t changed at all. Gave me a hug goodbye too. On the way home my friend, Jack went "You two really suit each other, you go really well. I think he’s still fond of you, but it’s hard to tell".When I got home I kept thinking about earlier on in the day and how good it was to see him again and I was upset – I cried. I really thought I was over him, and I thought if I didn't meet up with him I would have been sad, but now I have seen him it's made me even worse. It's come as a shock to me how much I still like him, and how much I really do miss him, and I know I shouldn't. I know he's had other girlfriends, and I assume he’s single at the moment (I don’t want to ask!) I’m guessing that he is probably over me and wouldn't consider getting back together (although he has said he'd still do ‘things’ with me) but my hearts saying no, because I still like him.I really don’t know what to do, I still like him.. and there’s a part of me that’s wondering if he still does (but I don’t want to ask him), does it sound like he still likes me to you? Or was he just being friendly? Do you always have a soft spot for people you once went out with? Is it still possible to go out with them again in the future?Any advice would be most appreciated.Thanks.Victoria
View related questions:
at work, split up, text, university Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
male
reader, CraziiForYou +, writes (12 November 2008):
awww victoria darling this sounds like about the same thing i went through me and my ex havent tlked to each other for so long and i thought i was so over him..untill one day me and a couple of friends were hanging out and he got invited so we talked and i realized how so not over him i was...when i got home i cried for days cause it seemed like he was being so nice to me i really wanted to know if he wanted me back but didnt want to ask but i got tired of it and was going to take the initiative so i told him can we talk..he said yes so we went in a private room to talk and before i could say a word he kissed me and said he didnt realize how much he wanted me back untill that day...he said that it was hard for him to express himself to e and that he was glad i wanted to talk because it made it easier for him to tell me..when i got home that night i was still shocked and didnt know wat to do but i went back out with him and we have been going strong ever since...so mayb time away is a good thing so take my advice sometimes even though you dont want to go ask talk to him the worst thing he can say is no and you havent been with him for this much time you will move on and you will never have to think "well what if...if this advice helps email me at this site.
|
