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writes: My boyfriend have been going steady for a while now and we are very much in love. We love just spending time together. We enjoy doing many things together. We are both virgins and have talked about having sex. He says that there would be nothing better for him than to see me naked, kiss me in places that are usually covered with clothes, and have sex with me as part of love making. I have mentioned to him that I am not ready for sex. He is very good and puts no pressure on me. He says that he does not want me to do anything I don't want to. He says that when the time is right and I'm ready it will come. He says he will be in no hurry and just wait patently. I would like to at least make some of his wishes come true. I would like to give him a chance to see me in the nude. I would also like to see him in the nude. What are some activities/ways of making love that we can do that don't involve intercourse? Thanks for your time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 August 2008): There are so many things you can do to probably list here by all the aunts.
As Shiles said, there is oral sex. However, if you don't want to go that far yet then here are some suggestions. However, be careful, as you may get so turned on by some of these that you will be in bed having sex before you know it.
Get naked above the waist and hold each other close and rub your chest against his. Sit on the couch and he can rub the inside of your leg and work his way to your crotch and rub you there while kissing you and intermittently fondling your boobs. If you are like my wife our first time, you will be so wet that your jeans or whatever pants yoy are wearing will be soaked. This is one of those activities that will drive you into the bedroom real fast though.
You can also dance dressed as above, with your legs intangled so that your thigh is rubbing his crotch and his leg is rubbing yours. Probably best to do that at home and not at a dance club. :) You can also do that at a club if you are dressed. I think my wife and I got more than a few looks back when we were dating. :)
One thing that Diovan has suggested is for him to have his penis between your boobs. You can press them together so they are tight around his penis. Some K-Y lube and he can rub it up and down. He can have an orgasm that way if you dont' mind the mess on your chest. It might seem gross to you at first, but you will probably like it if you are like my wife and another girlfriend of mine years ago.
You or he can masturbate him and he can orgasm on whereever you want that does not gross you out. Don't allow his semen get anywhere near your vagina. He or you can also masturbate your clit until you have an orgasm.
There are many more non-penetrative things that you can do like these. Use your imagination and don't let his penis or semen get too close to your vagina. Pregnancy is rare without penetration, but it is possible.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 August 2008): Sorry, dry humping is front to front, with clothes on... but I meant naked, with you on your front, and him on top rubbing against your bum.. He will get excited and he will orgasm.. It's also fun for you, you don't come but you feel very close and loving towards him.. Have fun babes, there's no hurry for sexual penetration yet. He can wait.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 August 2008): You could also try dry humping. Thats when you rub up against one another. He could lie on top of you and rub his penis against your body. Please be safe with this and make sure his penis is not next to your vagina. Have lots of fun, no penetrative sex dosen't have to be borring. You could also put his penis between your breasts, men like this a lot. There are tons of things you can do, don't feel ashamed. If you don't want to have penetrative sex, then this is ok. If you want to explore each others bodies, then this is ok as well. There are just the two of you, enjoy being together, and be safe, and have fun.. Good luck, I hope with have helped. Blessings.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 August 2008): Dear Poster
I admire you for taking things slow.
You can always start with some foreplay or mutual mastrubation and try experiment with oral sex if you feel ready for that.
Best wishes, enjoy and have lots of fun.
Keep smiling!
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