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writes: I feel stupid and way too old to be writing about this, but I need to clear my head and get some outside perspectives on this situation. I have ex-friends from childhood with whom I used to be very close with. Over time, I realized they always had to one-up me, make fun of me, use me as their verbal punching bag, etc. I was definitely more of a friend to them than they were to me. Childhood friend “A” would make fun of me, talk about me, or ignore me all together. Basically she would only call me when she broke up with a boyfriend.Friend “B” is someone also from childhood. She would start (verbal) fights with me just because she could. We got into one last fight and stopped talking. My “friends” and I stopped communicating after high school.I thought “good riddance,” but these girls could not leave well enough alone. While in college, they both tried to contact me. My reply was very cordial, but they both still held onto this high school grudge. I wanted nothing to do with them so they harassed my friends, talked about me and caused drama.Since then I’ve run into them a couple of times and am polite to them, yet they make snippy comments to snub me. Usually friends just drift apart, but these girls seem to want revenge of some sort. Which again, I don’t get since I was always the butt of their jokes or their punching bag anyways. I don't understand why they kept trying to get in touch, when it was only to put me down? It’s not like they wanted to be friends again. How do I find peace and move on with my life?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 July 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you! I feel better- it's time to move on and ignore them and their shenanigans.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (23 July 2010):
 Because they are unhappy with their own little lives, so taking it out on you makes them feel better. THAT is what bullies do, honey.
Ignore them, pretend they don't exist. If they start to harass you talk to a teacher or school counselor.
MEAN PEOPLE SUCK!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 July 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI just don't get it- when we were friends, they were mean to me. Then when they contacted me or see me, they're still mean!! Why don't they just move on? I didn't do anything to them! I simply decided to walk away and remove myself from the drama! Why is that bad?
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (20 July 2010):
Start to ignore them. They will seem like the crazy drama Llama's they are. You can be the butt of anyones joke if it's not funny.
YOU are moving on with your life, they are still stuck in High School.
Take them off your phone, Facebook, don't talk about them unless asked, just say they are former friends whom you grew apart from, there by, you won't be the gossiping one. Make new friends, if someone is just using you, cut them off, I really do believe having fewer but quality friends is way better then a LOT of shallow, useless ones.
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