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writes:(An update, of being a stepmother to a 3 year old..)I'm 21, and my husband to be is 23)Its me again.... Just an update also.... Things started to get a little better, then just recently, going back down... The 3 year old is starting to disrespect me sometimes, call me names, and he leaves me to punish her : ( but besides that, we are getting married August 21st, 2010.. i cant wait. kinda happy bout being a stepmother, kinda not to happy..i hope there are girls out there that kinda understand where im coming from, ive dated guys in the past that have had kids, but not one that had them FULL TIME.. its very difficult.. Actually this is prob the most difficult thing i think i have ever done... I figure if i leave now, before we get married, maybe i might find someone that doesnt have a kid and life would be easier, if i choose to stay i have a bad feeling imma have to deal with this FOREVER..sometimes i feel like the 3rd wheel..its hard... and this is wierd but when me and her are alone and hes at work, shes a totally different girl,and calls me mommy, and tells me how much she loves me.. then it seems once he comes home from work, that i dont even exist from her or him..it hurts soo bad.. i still feel like this jealousy is never gonna go away, maybe im just not ready for this,, but ive already gotten soo far with this man, we got a house together, we are trying to concieve, cuz he wants a kid with me, we have a huge pool in our back yard, a puppy, and i have such a beautiful engagement ring that he spent alot of money on... oh oya bout the tryin to have a kid situation, do u think this will help with the whole jealousy thing?/ will things even out? i hope. other thann that, i obvously need help again cuz i dont know what to do, and all this fighting me and him do is tearing our relationship apart.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 April 2010): ok i have read your story and i think that the reason why she acts up like that around her father is that it sounds like he lets her get away with a lot of things he should not. As far as you punishing her, he is her father and he should take some responsibility. Have you talked with him about this? I think she really cares for you but it is probably hard on her being 3 and not being with her mother. And as far as having a baby goes, it is wonderful. I too had a step son who is 16 and i just had a baby and i love him to death. I think if you were to have a baby, it would probably stress you out a little, but there would be so much love I think you wouldn't be jealous anymore. you shouldn't let your realationship get ruined because of a child just remember that she is only 3 it is probably hard for her too. you and your boyfriend should sit down with her and discuss these things.
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