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writes:Me and a girl have fell in love over the past 8 months my age 22, hers 24. The situation is one she has a baby with this dude and is going thru how best to make sure she can get her child when she leaves his abusing butt, the recent news Im meeting with her again for a week on the 22nd aha but then the bad news of confusion for me, by speaking with her dear friend whom has a wife and 6 kids btw I was able to get the truth about that and when asking her about it the answer was she does have a love for him aswell ? and then I came along and now she is in love with me and confused herself this other dude told me he has his family and he told her he is not leaving them and just wants friendship so in my logic it was like umm ok what is this confusion you may have and how is it possible to love triangle one the bf whom you are fighting for custody of the baby and then myself and then aswell some married dude who is not into you.Iam seriously thinking I shouldn't meet with her this time and just back off I dont know if it is people are dif but when I fall in love it is with one person not two and how can I go down knowing she loves me and also this dude its like setting myself up for a double edged sword even more so out of our open relationship that it took me talking with this dude man to man just to get the truth so trust is also in question now.Unsure if I should just put this thing on hold and tell her to sort out her problems or try to act like nothing has changed and continue. Logic and emotion point in two dif ways in this need some help anyone I would like to know a girls side of this question aswell as guys to help me further make a choice.
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reader, PunkyPippi +, writes (23 January 2009):
 Yes, put things on hold and let her sort it out. Meanwhile, go on living your life. If she find that you're the one, great! If not, as long as you've been moving forward you'll be just fine.
Good luck.
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