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writes:I really need some advice. This is the shortened story. Last week school got out and something really bad happened. I have a really big crush on this 25 year old hall monitor - Martin and he liked me too. So the last day of school I asked for his number and he said to call him later that night. so I did call him later that night and he asked if I wanted to go up to lake George with him and some of his friends. Ii knew one of the other people who is also another hall monitor-Matt and I went with them. The bad thing is is when I was up in lake George with them things went a little overboard. I kissed Martin and we had a makeout session then things boiled up and next thing was we were doing it. he said the most meaningful stuff in my ear and said he loved me. then Matt walked in on us and I told him to stay and we had a threesome. The three of us still want to hang out and talk on the phone but its kind of illegal because I'm 16 and the age of consent here is 17. There is no more school so I don't see them and if my parents found out they would put them in jail. I don't know what to do -I really like the guys and they like me too. HELP!!!!!
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reader, Artistry +, writes (5 July 2008):
 Hi, You are young in age, but you do know the consequences of what went on, if someone told the authorities or something, the two men could very well go to jail. I do not know how close you are to seventeen, but I would take a breather here and date guys, your own age. No one loves you to death on a first date, they only want sex, you are young and I am sure that Martin was thirlled to do what he did and so was the other guy. To put it bluntly, they used you, but you allowed it. So now it is done. You should also have an examination or test to make sure you have not contracted something, if you had unprotected sex, I hope you didn't, you played a very dangerous game. You really should be a bit more careful, this is your life you are dealing with, not just a one or two night stand, those guys are on to the next conquest. Think about it, what would you have in common with a 25 year old or vice versa, what would the conversation be about? You are almost a generation apart. Give yourself a chance to grow, before you decide to be so adventurous, there is plenty of time. I don't know if you
should tell your mom or not, she will hit the roof and your
dad might get a shotgun and go looking for them. They are going to say they thought you were older, but that is not
an excuse. They probably be looking at jail time, depending on the court system, so it is up to you, bare the burden or get both these men in some deep, deep manure. Take care of yourself, and try to use good judgment, before you get into something like this again, The other bigee is pregnancy,
suppose you became pregnant, how would you know whose baby it is? At sixteen, you certainly do not want to be caring for a little infant. You almost a baby yourself. There are consequencies to our actions. Please try to look before you leap. Take care and stay in touch, if we can help you in anyway again. And another thing, please do not beat yourself up over this, if any of us live long enough, we all do something, that we wish we had not done. Be good to yourself. Please let me know about any more anxiety.
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reader, DrPsych  +, writes (5 July 2008):
 I can well imagine this is a difficult and embarrassing situation for you. However, the brave thing to do would be to tell your parents what has happened. This is for child protection reasons because if Martin & Matt work in a school and are willing to start a sexual relationship with you, they are willing to do it with other underage girls too. It makes them predators who need to be investigated by the school authorities. YOu may think the attention is very flattering since they are older but it just seems like you have been groomed for sex.
Even though you are 16, they may be interested in younger girls and this is why you need to tell your parents. If this is a one off incident through lack of judgement it is unlikely the males will end up in jail as you are near the age of legal consent and it wasn't a forced act. But there maybe other girls who come forward as a result of an investigation.
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